[PaperDollHeart]

I ha sex for the first time exactly a week ago. The sex was unprotected, however I am not sure whether he 'pulled out' or not. Anyway he 'popped my cherry' and I bleed for a few minutes. The days that followed I had light brown spotting, and it lightened as the days passed. However, today there was a lot of brown blood in my knickers. According to period tracker, my period isn't due until the first of May and my period has always been regular. What could this mean?
Thank you.

[Alty]

Brown blood is old blood, blood that's been in your body for a while. It can happen between periods, it's your body shedding that old blood.

Having said that, I hope you realize that the pull out method is not a form of birth control. Even if he didn't ejaculate inside you there's more than enough sperm in pre-ejaculate to get you pregnant. So, you had unprotected sex, and there is a possibility of pregnancy. Actually, even if you use protection there's a chance of pregnancy, you've just upped the odds because you didn't use protection.

If your period is late by at least 2 weeks, take a pregnancy test using first morning urine. If it's negative wait until your next period and if you miss it test again or see your doctor for a blood test.

Any time you have sex pregnancy is possible. If you continue to have unprotected sex, pregnancy is inevitable, it's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when.

Good luck.

[dontknownuthin]

Alty has it right on all counts. The brown blood is old blood, probably from losing your virginity.

I am concerned about your careless and callous approach and attitude to trying to get pregnant. I say "trying to get pregnant" because that's all you can reasonably call it when you have unprotected sex. Now you seem all concerned - I'm guessing you're worried now that you might be pregnant.

Before you are mature enough for sex you should really be sure you can say "yes" to all of the following questions:
- Have you been to the doctor and told him/her that you intend to have intimate relations with your partner?
- Have you spoken to your partner about his sexual history and ensured that he does not have any sexually transmitted diseases? If he is not also a virgin, have you asked him for medical proof that he is a safe partner, from a physician?
- Have you and your partner discussed safe sex and is your partner aware that your policy is "no condom, no sex"?
- Are you financially independent of your parents, adequately educated, trained and employed to not only support yourself, but also to support a pregnancy, and then a child? All birth control methods are known to fail and you should not have sex unless you are prepared to accept full responsibility for any child resulting from your sexual relations until they are through college.
- Do you have a reliable vehicle and appropriate housing to provide for a child?

If you are not ready to be a parent, you can "fool around" in a lot of sexually satisfying ways that do not risk pregnancy. However, any time body fluids are present, disease transmission is a risk and you need to be well educated and fully responsible for preventing sexually transmitted diseases. Rule #1 is that men will tell you whatever they think will get you in bed unless they are really honest, good men. Rule #2 is that the really honest, good men are responsible enough not to have sex with you unless they are dead serious about a long-term future with you.

Please retire phrases like "pop your cherry", and retire the adolescent attitude along with it. Know that sex is serious enough to result in another life through pregnancy, and also serious enough that it can lead to death through diseases. It's a lot more than a fun ending to a night at the bars.