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GmanUK · Apr 14, 2013, 08:59 PM

Hi All,

I literally stumbled across this website whilst wallowing in self pity at 5am. Let me set the scene, I met my girlfriend 5 years ago and we hit it off straight away. Although we were at different unis, everything worked great and we saw each other every couple of weeks. Following our graduations, we went travelling for 6 months, and had an amazing time. I believe we both thought we were the one for each other (please note we came back from travelling about 18 months ago). Since then, we have both been working on the path of our chosen careers whilst l

GmanUK · Apr 14, 2013, 09:23 PM

Hi All,

I literally stumbled across this website whilst wallowing in self pity at 5am. Let me set the scene, I met my girlfriend 5 years ago and we hit it off straight away. Although we were at different unis, everything worked great and we saw each other every couple of weeks. Following our graduations, we went travelling for 6 months, and had an amazing time. I believe we both thought we were the one for each other (please note we came back from travelling about 18 months ago). Since then, we have both been working on the path of our chosen careers whilst looking to move out together. This is the issue I believe. We have not had the right opportunity to do so until now, when suddenly, she tells me that she isn't sure if she loves me as much as I love her and she needs a two week NC break.

I won't lie, I was so shocked and distraught. I could not stop crying as she is my best friend as well. Eventually, I agreed to the break (I didn't try and argue against it, I just told her how much I love her and would miss her). We both said it would be the hardest thing we have ever done.

It's been about 12 hours since that conversation, and I can not get her out of my head. I've told a couple of mates half about the situation just to stop myself from breaking the NC rule already which she wants (I have text her once but this was before I spoke to them).

What do I do? I desperately don't want to break the NC rule anymore than I have, but I'm so scared of losing her as all my dreams included this girl. I feel sick and can't eat. Also, despite me working in my career path, I'm not getting that much enjoyment out of it at the moment, so feeling low about that.

Any help would be some much appreciated.

Many thanks

Gman

GmanUK · Apr 14, 2013, 09:24 PM

Please can this be closed down as this is an incomplete post? I have made a new full one as it wouldn't let me edit this on my mobile.

If people want to help, please can they respond to my other post? Many thanks

Fr_Chuck · Apr 14, 2013, 09:47 PM

Why ? No contact is normally used to decide if you really love someone, or to just move on.

Are you also doing a break as girl and boy friend ( the rules of a break should be known)
Is she going to date someone else ? Or just not talk to you?
How often do you talk ? Is she doing some hard tests and want some alone time.

GmanUK · Apr 14, 2013, 09:55 PM

Hi Chuck,

We both won't be seeing anyone as far as I know (I really don't believe she will, and I certainly won't). In terms of how often we talk, we text probably 10-15 times a day plus normally talk. As for the NC break, she wants a total break (no texting, phoning). She has an important time coming up at the moment with her career (I've fully supported her with this in terms of encouragement and emotional support all the way), so I know she is stressing about that. I don't know whether she is doing this to gentlely break away from me though, or if she needs a break to know how much she loves me. I can't get her out of my head