[ZultaarFrog]

My parents are really homophobic they looked through my stuff constantly. In 6th grade they saw gay porn on my dsi (my fault.. I guess:/) the next morning my dad came into my room telling me to stay away from the computer. My mom saw my 4 year old brother sucking his thumb and started calling me a punk , faggot, and all these vulgar names.. I just turned 16 trying to get a job to save up. All of it is making me think of dropping out to get away from them. What should I do to get through the next 3 or 2 years.

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[Wondergirl]

Do your best in school, get a h.s. diploma, and when you turn 18, you are an adult.

[ZultaarFrog]

Do your best in school, get a h.s. diploma, and when you turn 18, you are an adult.

thanks I'd like to attend art college so hopefully everything works for me

[Fr_Chuck]

I will assume you are homosexual? And that is why they are unhappy? I do not want to sound rude, but get over it and get used to it. Many people all over the world will not like the behavior and will be vocal about it, It is illegal in some nations, even with serious punishments.
Next many religious groups will teach against it very strongly.

So in work, in life, in college, in school, there will be people who will not like you because of this. Sorry but this is life, there is no way to normally make a person change their mind if it is for a strong conviction of some type.

Next if my son in 6th grade had any type of pron, gay, straight, animal, does not matter, they would be grounded from computer, that is called being a good parent, not homophobic.
Next do you even know what homophobic means, it means being scared of homosexual, don't sound like they are scare or you. In sixth grade a child is not gay or straight, they should not be sexual anything

[Oliver2011]

I am gay so I speak from personal experiences. Not everyone accepts gay people and that is sad. They see us as gay and gay only. They don't see us as loving, caring, a good friend, an awesome tennis player, a volunteer, a good singer, etc.

But always remember that if this is truly all they see, then it is truly their problem. Don't define yourself as gay only. You probably have many more attributes that make you the person you are.

Lastly, don't allow anyone to control your future or destiny. You need to be in control of that. Meaning - if your mom ticks you off to the point you want to drop out of school then realize that decision only hurts you. So be in control of your life.

[ZultaarFrog]

I'm a 15 year old boy. I turn 16 in August. I can't take my homophobic parents anynore. My mom got on my faccebook and read my messesages between my ex. She told my dad. An hour ago he punched me in the face got me on the ground and punched me repeatedly on the back and stomped my back. I need help please..

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[Wondergirl]

I'm a 15 year old boy. I turn 16 in August.

Your first post says you are older. It was in April and you said you just turned 16.

[Cat1864]

I just turned 16 trying to get a job to save up

I'm a 15 year old boy. I turn 16 in August. I can't take my homophobic parents anynore. My mom got on my faccebook and read my messesages between my ex. She told my dad. An hour ago he punched me in the face got me on the ground and punched me repeatedly on the back and stomped my back. I need help please..

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If you want help, you are going to have to be honest with us. Either you are already 16 and getting a job or you are 15 and months away from turning 16.

This may not seem like a big deal to you, but if we can't trust you to tell us how old you are, how can we trust you to give us accurate information about how you are being treated?

Our advice is based on the facts you give us. We cannot give you accurate advice if you are exaggerating or lying to us,

[ZultaarFrog]

If you want help, you are going to have to be honest with us. Either you are already 16 and getting a job or you are 15 and months away from turning 16.

This may not seem like a big deal to you, but if we can't trust you to tell us how old you are, how can we trust you to give us accurate information about how you are being treated?

Our advice is based on the facts you give us. We cannot give you accurate advice if you are exaggerating or lying to us,

I'm 15. Sorry I said 16 because my birthday isn't far away.

[muttpupdawg]

It doesn't matter how old you are, contrary to the inaccurate statements spewed by Fr Chuck. I am a gay man, and my parents are ultra conservative. Growing up, I was subjected to rejection, animosity, and intolerance both at home and at school. Being gay is not a choice. You also cannot be brainwashed into believing you are something else. My suggestion to you is to find a support group for gay teens, at school or your local community center. If neither of these are available to you, there are several available online. Embrace who you are! You are your own person. Use knowledge. Research. I realize you are 15, but you have a voice. Be respectful, but firm. You deserve to be happy, to be just the way you are. You need to be comfortable in your own skin, without those around you putting you down because you are different. Love yourself!

[joypulv]

Everyone here is 'right.' You certainly can be who you are and not be ashamed, but you can't DO certain things while under your parents' roof. You made your biggest mistake putting porn on your computer and now they don't trust you to be in the same house with your little brother, (who they assume saw some of it and that's why he sucked his thumb again?)

AND OOPS, sorry, I'll bet you didn't pay for that computer, nor the monthly internet bill, nor countless other expenses you cost your parents day in and day out.

So accept the consequences until you are supporting yourself.

[JudyKayTee]

“It doesn't matter how old you are, contrary to the inaccurate statements spewed by Fr Chuck ...”

What “inaccurate statements” did FrChuck “spew”? That life is difficult for people who are gay or bi? That he would not allow his underage child to watch any porn?

Something else?

[Fr_Chuck]

Don't worry, this is the normal "attack" one expects when a person, merely talks the truth, and others don't agree but have no other advice, they attack the person, not the information.

The issue is, that support groups and other programs would not exist if there were not people who do not agree and think this life style is wrong. So yes, all though your life you will be subect form comments of people. There will be nations you can not travel to, since this behavior is even illegal in some places.

So my comment is, that I see nothing from parents actions that show them anything but loving parents with a teen who does not want to answer for actions.

[talaniman]

Originally Posted by ZultaarFrog View Post
I'm a 15 year old boy. I turn 16 in August. I can't take my homophobic parents anynore. My mom got on my faccebook and read my messesages between my ex. She told my dad. An hour ago he punched me in the face got me on the ground and punched me repeatedly on the back and stomped my back. I need help please..

If this is true you need a sympathetic and respected adult to talk to. Friend, relative, school counsel or, teacher, or principle. Some one you trust and respect, male or female.

Are you openly gay to your friends, or just in the closet at home? The real issue here is how to cope with your parents and that starts with respecting them even if you don't understand them, by obeying the rules they set, while you make plans for your own independence when the time comes.

It will be here sooner than you think. Some are not as tolerant of others but beating is a separate issue and the reason behind it doesn't matter.

[muttpupdawg]

While living under your parents' roof, you do need to abide by the rules of the house. Your parents had every right to get pissed about discovering porn on the computer when you were in 6th grade, although some of the blame does sit on their shoulders, as they should have proper security and supervision set up. That being said, communicate with your parents. As much as they are entitled to their views and opinions, they still love you, regardless of your sexual orientation...