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    bigawr23 Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 11, 2013, 09:53 AM
    I like a girl, we have talked for a bit now but she's engaged. What do I do?
    So I met this cute gorgeous lady at soccer. I had seen her and played her coed team many times before. She obviously knows and remember me from the games as Im a very offensive player. 2 weeks ago my team played hers. I was late to the game from taking a nap. My team was down by 2. We won the match and we had a few 1 on 1 plays. I apologized for being "too rough" on her on the last play. That was it. Before that she caught me looking at her as I was making my way to the bench before my game and she was walking away. I looked away then back and she was still looking at me. Im not sure if that was even something but I felt something. Needless to say, she is really good soccer player. The next day after our game I added her on fb and messaged her. I said how good she was and hwo hard it was to play against her. She replied quick and accepted my friend request. She got engaged 3 days before this happened (the game) but we kept talking every day almost all day for 2 weeks now. I have 3 games tonight and chances are she will be there before my last game ends.

    I don't know what to do. I know she is engaged but we have so MUCH in common. Its crazy. From jersey numbers to things we like to do to ice cream to soccer positions etc. I felt something from the very first moment I saw her. I'm sure she can tell I like her a lot. I initiate the talks every morning with "good morning!" or something like that. Then she will usually reply right away. We both work but yet make time to talk throughout the day.

    Maybe I'm just a friend maybe its nice to have someone she can feel a connection and still have respect for each other. But I just think we could work better as more than that. The thing is she is already looking at wedding stuff... I don't the guy but he should be gnarly to have her or just a high school relationship. She is shy at first and seems like she hasn't be on the party scene or goes out a lot. The guy doesn't even go to her games! Pllease I need advice.
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    Apr 11, 2013, 10:05 AM
    You need to do the right thing which is walk away from this girl. She is engaged and that means hands off. You don't know her that well and you don't have a huge investment in her. Plus how would you feel if you broke up two people who are in love.

    Do the right thing!
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    Apr 11, 2013, 10:09 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Oliver2011 View Post
    You need to do the right thing which is walk away from this girl. She is engaged and that means hands off. You don't know her that well and you don't have a huge investment in her. Plus how would you feel if you broke up two people who are in love.

    Do the right thing!
    I am on your side. I have stopped talking to her. Although she shows interest and has mentioned it would be fun to hang out I need to stop. Thank you for your reply!
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    Apr 11, 2013, 10:10 AM
    Oh now wait... you both have the same jersey numbers and you both like ice cream? You do have so much in common!


    Seriously... she's engaged. Back off. She's not yours to have simply because you talk to her and have "so much in common".
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    Apr 11, 2013, 10:11 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by odinn7 View Post
    Oh now wait...you both have the same jersey numbers and you both like ice cream? You do have so much in common!


    Seriously...she's engaged. Back off. She's not yours to have simply because you talk to her and have "so much in common".

    Obviously not just that... I just mentioned. But yes I will back off
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    Apr 11, 2013, 10:13 AM
    She is probably just being nice. Just keep it as friends and nothing more than that. You'll find someone else soon enough.
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    Apr 11, 2013, 10:14 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by odinn7 View Post
    She is probably just being nice. Just keep it as friends and nothing more than that. You'll find someone else soon enough.
    I think so... thanks again!
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    Apr 11, 2013, 11:05 AM
    "She got engaged 3 days before this happened (the game) but we kept talkin every day"

    - in my part of the World being engaged doesn't mean you can interact with other people, including people who rough you up in soccer games.

    "I dont know what to do. i know she is engaged ..."

    Ask her fiancé what he thinks you should do. Fiancés tend to provide straight forward advice in these situations.

    "but we have so MUCH in common. its crazy. from jersey numbers to things we like to do to ice cream to soccer positions etc.

    Based on this I could marry the guy who owns the local Dairy Queen store.

    "I felt something from the very first moment I saw her. I'm sure she can tell I like her a lot. I initiate the talks every morning with "good morning!" or something like that."

    Up to now i haven't been aware that starting a conversation with "good mornng" lets the other person know, well, anything.

    I would reread what you've posted.
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    Apr 11, 2013, 12:24 PM
    Leave her alone. Plain and simple.
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