[Richellenn]

Okay, I decided I was ready to lose my viginity to the guy I'm with. And the very first time we tried it, I was on top, straddling him. When he started to insert, it hurt a little, but it also wouldn't fit. So the next time we tried, was the same thing. Except it went in a little further, but this time it hurt a hell of a lot more, and then I didn't feel anything.

He would constantly tell me I'm tight, and he defenitley is not small. I told him I couldn't feel anything and it got kind of awkward, cause he said he was feeling it. So we decided maybe one more go, but it just happened again. Pain.. then nothing.

We've only done the one position. But we can't really do any other. He's a lot taller then me and it just doesn't work. I'm so confused. Why is this happening? If ANYONE could help me I would much appreciate it! :) Thanks!

[Fr_Chuck]

Of course dozens of other positions work, how old are you, if you don't think they will.

But also what exactly are you expecting to feel, few women climax from actual intercourse and would do so, before in foreplay or at least afterwards

[Alty]

What are you hoping to feel? What is it you aren't feeling? Are you saying that you can't feel his penis inside you, or are you saying you're not sexually aroused, or didn't have an orgasm?

The majority of women never climax from penetration alone. If you're expecting him to bring you to orgasm, you may never reach that goal and sex will be a huge disappointment. Are you an active participant when you're having sex? Do you know how to bring yourself to orgasm, or are you hoping that he'll now how to get you there?

Last but not least, how old are you? Do you know how your body works? Does he?

[Richellenn]

I'm saying that I can't feel him inside me. But during foreplay: I can feel when he plays with me. And I'm 19 by the way. And I'm pretty sure we know how the body works, though I guess we don't know enough? Its so confusing. Idk what's wrong

[Cat1864]

What kind of birth control are you using? If you are using condoms, you might have a slight sensitivity to the material they are made of or the lubricant/spermicide. If you are, it might be numbing the area. Try a different type/brand or another form of birth control.

Because there are so few nerve endings in the vagina, you won't feel him inside you as much as might feel pressure or the sensation of movement. Sort of like putting on a glove and holding something in your hand.

We aren't really built to get much stimulation out of penetration unless the clitoris and outer parts are stimulated. It also helps to know about how female arousal works because the more you are aroused the more sensitive the nerve endings can be. Understand that for some women too much physical stimulation can result in numbing the nerve endings or over stimulating them.

Arousal for women tends to start in the brain long before we ever take our clothes off.

I am going to suggest getting a vibrator if you don't already have one and experiment. It is a good way to find out which angles give you the best stimulation.