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aissangel123 · Apr 3, 2013, 12:06 PM

Well.. there was this guy I like, he was my good friend and we would ALWAYS share laughs and he was so hilarious! Then, we figured out we liked each other, we told each other on text and then we haven't been talking at school. I asked him why he didn't and he said it was because he was shy. Then , one day at school, he asked me out. I said yes, and we started dating since 2/22/13. I was so happy, but, there is this girl that he always hangs out with. She kind of got touchy with him, a lot, and I did get jealous and I told him but he said he didn't have any feelings for her. That was one of our problems, but the main reason, while we were dating, he didn't talk to me at school AT ALL. He would only talk to that girl. Then on text, we talked 24/7. We didn't kiss, we hugged a few times and held hands once, we also planned to be together for a long time and to make changes at school and talk to each other. Today, I got a text from my friend and she sent me a picture of him and her laughing close to each other and looking at something on the phone. I broke up with him on text because I'm sick, and I'm sure he was sad. I don't know how to approach this at school. If I see him with the girl again, I will feel devastated. What do I do?

Wondergirl · Apr 3, 2013, 12:33 PM

It sounds like you are his text buddy because he is shy and she is his in-person buddy when he is fun and social. Do you smell something weird here? I'm guessing you and he are in middle school?

JudyKayTee · Apr 3, 2013, 01:03 PM

I don't think this was a breakup because I don't think this was a relationship.

And, yes, I'd take your own advice and end the relationship (whatever it is).

Wondergirl · Apr 3, 2013, 01:08 PM

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"Yes. We are 8th graders. And that does make sense now.. but he is talking to me now and says he's kind of sad and he's sorry. Idk what to do!"

Wondergirl · Apr 3, 2013, 01:10 PM

I don't believe he is sad at all. Why sad, that he got caught while playing games with you? His being "sad" is part of the game.

JudyKayTee · Apr 3, 2013, 01:11 PM

I don't think this was any type of relationship - and unfortunately the OP is going to see him at school and unfortunately he probably will be talking to other girls no matter what happens. I think that would be upsetting. I'm not sure about devastating.

If he and OP thinks this is a relationship and he's behaving in a cruel fashion, then she needs to follow her own advice and break off the relationship: "Dear, listen to your heart. Ask yourself, was it the right thing to take him back? Should I just leave his sorry butt? Will he do this again to me? But most importantly, Can I trust him? It's all on you to make the right decision, and hey, if it works out and he changes for you, then you guys communicate well. But if it doesn't, it was never meant to be. You have to listen to yourself on this one. Make the RIGHT decision. If you guys decide to break up, SHOW HIM IT WAS THE WRONG DECISION THINKING OF HER. Do NOT contact him in ANY way and make sure to shine! Show him that you are HAPPY. That you don't need him!"

Wondergirl · Apr 3, 2013, 01:13 PM

And then she will turn the page and get involved in another middle-school drama.

Homegirl 50 · Apr 3, 2013, 02:33 PM

This guy was not your boyfriend. He did not even talk to you in person. He was you friend and in a moment of hormones maybe he decided he might like you. He obviously didn't.
Leave him alone. You're young and by next month there will probably be someone else.