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    raylongoria Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 23, 2012, 09:48 AM
    Why will my son's mother not tell me the truth about my son.
    Hello out. Back in 1979 I was called up and she told me she was in the hosp having a child,and that it was mine.I said we had a lot to talk about and she said no,I am giving it up for adoption,told her no I would take it and again told me no,ending the call.Me not knowing the law or my rights I left down.many yrs passed.me always thing of the child back in Lubbock Tx.what have I done.thinking about it a lot I started searching for them,and I always hit a dead end,couldn.t find them.many more yrs went by.my sister in Lubbock called me to wish me a Happy Fathers Day.got me to looking again.this time I was told she had changed her name and was married.but was living in shallowater Tx.and was working with my older brother.which gave me her # .I called her up asking about the child she had back in 1979.and all she told me why I needed to know that after all those yrs.I told her because I looked for them a long time and couldn't find you,and now I have and would like to know.then she said what made me think the child was mine.o my you called me back in 1979 and told me,then she ending the call,now I am looking all over the net still looking for anything that will help me find my son.again he was born in Lubbock Tx in 1979 might have been given up for adoption,or she kept him and didn't tell me,married and gave the child his name.I would love to find him and see him,not trying to change anything I want to know the truth and want him to know to. Thanks for reading thiss.
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    Aug 23, 2012, 12:53 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by raylongoria View Post
    Hello out. Back in 1979 i was called up and she told me she was in the hosp having a child,and that it was mine.I said we had a lot to talk about and she said no,I am giving it up for adoption,told her no I would take it and again told me no,ending the call.Me not knowing the law or my rights i left down.many yrs passed.me always thing of the child back in Lubbock Tx.what have i done.thinking about it alot i started searching for them,and i always hit a dead end,couldn.t find them.many more yrs went by.my sister in Lubbock called me to wish me a Happy Fathers Day.got me to looking again.this time i was told she had changed her name and was married.but was living in shallowater Tx.and was working with my older brother.which gave me her # .I called her up asking about the child she had back in 1979.and all she told me why i needed to know that after all those yrs.i told her because i looked for them a long time and couldn't find you,and now i have and would like to know.then she said what made me think the child was mine.o my you called me back in 1979 and told me,then she ending the call,now i am looking all over the net still looking for anything that will help me find my son.again he was born in Lubbock Tx in 1979 might of been given up for adoption,or she kept him and didnt tell me,married and gave the child his name.I would love to find him and see him,not trying to change anything i want to know the truth and want him to know to. thanks for reading thiss.


    Are you positive the child is not with "her?"

    The various adoption sites seeking to reunite people are most helpful - you look for "him," hope he's looking for "you."

    If you have an idea what his name MIGHT be (was he not placed for adoption and has her name) he's a lot easier to find. In fact, that's what I do.

    Adoption records are closed. The best you can do is ask her - why after all these years (I wonder) is she playing games?
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    Mar 29, 2013, 04:22 PM
    Hire an investigator. I don't know what country you live in or how the system works there but as the father, you have every right to know your offspring. Get the advice of a lawyer. It may be difficult but never give up. I'm sorry for what that woman has put you through and I really hope you find your son. God bless.

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