[Confizelled]

Ok, this is how it is: we met quite a while ago, some two years I think, at a party (he is a friend of my best friends boyfriend). That night the four of us were just hanging out, and the more time passed the more we were talking. We had some things in common, and I admit, I thought that he was interesting, even though, he was not my type at all. Around six months passed since than, and I forgot all about him. I started taking some drawing lessons and there he was again. During the six weeks period we bonded in some childish way, we were always teasing each other, he was taking my things and I would pretend I was mad at him... It was fun. He was a natural flirt around girls, according to my friend, so I didn't take notice of it. I went abroad and we didn't communicate for a month or so. When I came back, he was going on a date with some girl, and I was relived because he was confusing me. They weren't official yet when I went to the public pool with my best friend and he was there. It was the same story all over again. He was challenging me all day, teasing me... But I wasn't giving in. I acted as his buddy because I didn't wasn't to give him the wrong idea. Some more time passed, and he was now official with this girl. He was the first to congratulate me my birthday, and my best friend, who was staying over at my place at the time, started saying how he likes girls like me, she thinks I'm his type. I realized were she was going with this, so I clearly stated that that was a coincidence.

Two months later, my best friend told me that he told indirectly to her boyfriend that he likes her. Her boyfriend got jealous and stopped talking to him. At this time he was already broken up with girlfriend, and was chatting over Facebook with me, and liking all my photos and such. So I was a bit surprised by this, but it didn't affect me because I thought I didn't know him all that well, also we stopped chatting. The next four months my best friend was using every opportunity to badmouth him. On her birthday party, we were both there, he was his childish old self and came to say hi, told me that he was blown away when he saw what I made for my friend as a present. I wasn't in the mood to talk to him, so I avoided him for the rest of the evening. On the New Years Party he was there again, but this time he was different. We talked for some time and he was all serious, acting like a gentleman. He volunteered outside to watch the fire works with me because I am short and couldn't see a thing through the window. Time passed again, we didn't chat, we didn't see each other in a month.

Then I went out with my best friend, her boyfriend and some of his friends. He was there, of course, again behaving gentleman like, spending the whole evening with me. He walked so fast that I tripped and fell, so he helped me up, and by that time I realized that we were separated from the group. He was telling me about some show which I later watched. I admit, I had fun that time. (around this time he started hugging me every time we meet and I've caught him staring at me a few times, but I always looked away, once I didn't and started staring back at him, he got mad and told me that I confuse him). Later we talked about how great the love story was in the series, and he started complimenting me along the way. Now, I knew he is a flirt, but my best friend surprised me one day.She told me that I didn't pick up on the signs and that I'm blind. According to her boyfriend (her boyfriend and him started hanging out again because "it was all just a big misunderstanding") he wants to start hanging out with me and he thinks that he likes me. I was confused because she spent last couple of months filling my head with all sort of bad things about him. After this I started avoiding him, I didn't want to get involved with him.

In July we got accepted at the same collage but were attending different courses. The summer went by, and so did the autumn, and I was still avoiding him. At my best friends birthday party we met again, and he was all polite once more. A week later came the New Years party he continued monitoring me through the evening, checking me every now and then about all sorts of things. He wished me all the best, and told me that he hopes that we graduate while hugging me and holding me up, because he lifted me of the ground. After that we didn't hang out. We spoke in hallways, as he always comes up to say hi. He stopped doing this after Valentines, but I still catch him looking at me when we are in the hallway.

That is the deal, so help! I don't know what to think of him, and to make things worse I started missing talking to him, and I've caught myself looking for him on break time...

[joypulv]

I'm really sorry but I think you need to understand that all this is very, very hard to read by people who aren't there feeling it, seeing it. It goes on and on and could be summarized in about 3 sentences, with some observations about what it all means, rather than detail of every single action. Please try to tell US what it all means to you! How do you feel? What good does it do to get total strangers to try to analyze him and guess what he is thinking? We aren't hearing from him, just from you. What do YOU want from HIM?

[talaniman]

I think you like him, and don't know if its romance or friendship. Or even mutual. You would have to ask him for what's he up to.

[smkanand]

You were listening to another girl. Now you like this guy. But he never admitted anything to you. If he has to say anything it is not very difficult but he didn't. So he looks at you, that doesn't suggest much. I think you should wait till he approaches you. You guys in the same college so wait.

[Confizelled]

Thanks everyone! :) I'm not the type to approach first, so I'll wait... I just don't know if he is worth it. On one side, I want to give up, but on the other, I want to know how he feels...

@joypulv: I just want him to be honest with me, I'm not god at this whole flirting and playing games thing... I'm scared that he might be teasing me for fun, and I'm mad at myself because I'm starting to fall for it...

[joypulv]

Do you realize that he is wondering how you feel too?
That's how life works. Men aren't really much different from women about being rejected, about jumping in, about making all the moves.
He may make the first move, and even the second and third, but at some point you have to help a little, and say 'it was nice talking with you, let's go for an ice cream cone and a walk some time soon.' It's that bridge between the superficial and the real.

[Confizelled]

I'm avare of that, it is just because of that I'm scared of coming clean to him.What if he is not interested, and me telling him about how I feel causes him to start avoiding me?

[smkanand]

"He wished me all the best, and told me that he hopes that we graduate while ......." I think you need to wait a little bit, he seems to be focus on studies now. Let you guys complete studies, I believe he will approach you. If not you go ahead but till then, all the best.

[Confizelled]

Thanks for the advice :)