[sassysnapdragon]

My 29 y/o son and his 28 y/o wife and my 2 granddaughters (ages 2 and 11 months as of this posting)moved in with my husband and me about a year ago. The lease was up on their apartment and they lost the roommates and could not afford to get an apartment on their own. Both of them only work a part time job.So rather then risk those babies living in a car or a shelter. My husband and I agreed to extend a helping hand. It was to be a temporary arrangement. We did not charge them any rent under the premise that they would be able to save money and get their own place. We did however ask for them to contribute part of the food stamp money they receive as my husband and I are both on fixed incomes due to disabilities and we certainly could not afford to feed 4 extra mouths. BTW my husband is 62 and I am 55. We even went so far as to let them have the master bedroom and bathroom in our home, because it is the biggest and to allow them privacy. After a year, they have not saved one nickle, and so we recently advised them that they are going to have to pay $250 a month rent. Which they agreed to. This is the back-story of our situation..

Now here is the issue, marijuana! my son and his wife are in my opinion addicted to it, partaking on a daily basis. Yesterday morning while on my out for one of my weekly dialysis treatments I needed to inform my son of something as both my husband and I were going to be out of the house most of the afternoon. When I opened the door to the master bedroom, there was my son either smoking a bowl or about to light one up, with those 2 precious babies with him in a closed room. Needless to say I was very p***ed about it, and because of time constraints the only thing I was able to say "You need to cut that crap out now!"

My concern has and will always be for my precious granddaughters, they are my joy, they brighten my day EVERY day and have been very therapeutic in helping me deal with my medical condition, because if not for them I would have stopped my dialysis on more then one occasion. This morning I advised my daughter-in-law that were I EVER to catch that again, they were going to have to leave and I would be calling CPS.

I am at a loss here, should I be doing that anyway? My son gets VERY defensive if the subject of his pot smoking is brought up, which I have on several occasions, as you cannot provide properly for 2 baby girls on a part time job, but there is no way in hell he could pass a drug test for any other employment. (His current employer does not drug test, in fact both he and his wife work at the same place).

I just want the best for my grandaughters! Any suggestions???

[teacherjenn4]

I'd have already called CPS. Those children are exposed to drugs. You are allowing it to continue. Do the right thing before something worse happens to them.