[michael zhang]

Me and my girlfriend has been today for nearly 1 and a half years, we are family friends but our family are both strongly disagreeing on us. About 1-2 months into our relationship, our families found out and she nearly broke up with me. But we managed to get through together. We have fun, go out on dates secretly without our family knowing for the 1st year. After the 1st year, she seems to be starting to change, all the things that she used to do for me, and all the laughs and talks we used to have... its all starting to disappear.

Recently one day, her mother tells her that one of her friend saw us walking together in the city and suspects us been together. Obviously she denied it, then later that night she was saying to me how maybe we shouldn't be together. She listens to her family's advice a lot, doesn't really say no when her parents suggests something to her. I really love her, I've been in several relationships before but I've never found one that is like her. Although she does yell at me, whines a lot, but at the end, she thinks about me.

Because of our relationship our families have pretty much contacted each other as little as possible. I believe that even if both our families disagree, we still have our own will of being together, in the end. I am wanting to live the rest of my life with her.

Is there any ways that I can get my girlfriend's feeling to stop thinking about her families thoughts and concentrate on ours? I don't want our relationship to end. Please help.

[aliyaa]

Girls think too much negative. As I know they like drama and fight without reason.I think you should not do anything .if you try talking to her or disagree with her she ll think her parents are rt.give her time when she sees your patient wit her she ll befine

[michael zhang]

She's really into korean dramas, therefore she's really into guys that has the same style like the koreans, I try everything, even trying new style clothes that I have never touched before just to make her happy. Her friends tell her that I'm a really good boyfriend and she knows it (I don't know her friends personally but she told me)
I do try to give her time, but every time I wait, time seems to go pass so slow, every night I'll get to a point where I want to talk to her and end up texting her, but nowadays she replies to me in nearly an hour+... is waiting all I can do?

[odinn7]

Sounds like forgetting her and moving on is the better choice for you. It sounds to me like she has pretty much decided that this is over and hasn't actually come out and told you yet.

Oh and... changing for someone like you say you're doing is not the way to go. Originally they fell for you and if they're not interested anymore, changing your clothes and your hair and who knows what else is not the answer. When it winds up not working out, you will look back and just be more upset that you went through all that for nothing... and it's not who you really are.

[aliyaa]

U can also confront her and ask her why is it that she is acting lik that.but as I know being a gal she would not lik it .If u just want to know you can talk to her nicely ask her what she wants ? MAKE Sure you make her feel like you are always there for her watever she decides

[michael zhang]

Sounds like forgetting her and moving on is the better choice for you. It sounds to me like she has pretty much decided that this is over and hasn't actually come out and told you yet.

Oh and....changing for someone like you say you're doing is not the way to go. Originally they fell for you and if they're not interested anymore, changing your clothes and your hair and who knows what else is not the answer. When it winds up not working out, you will look back and just be more upset that you went through all that for nothing...and it's not who you really are.

I really like her, throughout this year we've pretty much done the same thing over and over again, its like my life has already been entered by her. Examples are like staying on the phone together even if we're asleep/not talking. Eating this special food 3-4 times a week and been happy about it. It may be minor things but we both enjoy it, well at least I still do for now... she enjoys the eating part I'm sure...

I don't know what will happen to me if it all suddenly stopped, I've changed so much since I've met her, she taught me a lot, she is the 1st girl that I've met since my other relationships that's cared about me so much. I sometimes tell myself that maybe I should let her go, but... I really don't want to. I love her

U can also confront her and ask her y is it that she is acting lik that.but as I knw being a gal she would not lik it .If u just want to knw u can talk to her nicely ask her wat she wants ? MAKE Sure u make her feel like u r always there for her watever she decides

I tried that already, her answer was something about looking for a perfect guy. I told her that there's no guy in the world that's perfect, there's always something missing, and that I may not be that perfect guy, but I will always be there for her and protect her...

My friends say I've treated her way too nice, getting her watever she wants and doing what she wants. They say I've fallen a little too deep. But to me, when you love a girl, you should treat them nicely, specially when you feel that they are finally the one... sometimes I try not been that nice, but I really just can't do it. My mind is like telling me, she is your girlfriend, be nice to her, love her, protect her... and so I do all the things for her if I can manage it. But every time she seems to find me annoying and I think, she thinks I'm pushing her too much...

[talaniman]

I don't know how old you are but if you cannot understand the terrible pressure she is under because of her family, and keeping you a secret, then your love is a selfish one indeed. Secrets mean lying to her family, and that's a good way to feel guilty also. Lying to her parents the people he is close to and depend on.

I doubt they will ever change and things could go badly if they ever learn the truth, so understand her dilemma, and enjoy this secret love while it lasts as the possibility of marriage is a small one and unrealistic at this time despite your hopes and wishes.

How old are you and when will you both be independent enough to end the secrecy?