[jalandharan]

I am Jalandhar, India, 22 year old, singer, IT employee. Recently came to meet a care taking mum from Kuala Lampur who got impressed with my singing. She takes me so possessive that she buys anything and everything for me though she stays abroad.

Now she has come all the way for second time, to cuddle, and hug, and sleep and stroke my upper half of body, in spite of her first debut visit before two months. Though I control my sexual arousal, its hard to continue her touches and lip kisses every night, she being polio patient (Hip).

Please let me know what she is up to. She (63 years) swears that it's a mum-son relation, she being a widow with 3 daughters and two grand sons, feel like adopting me.

[joypulv]

We are total strangers, online, so we can't know what's in her mind. Sexuality is a complicated matter that can be anything from a craving for touch from anyone, re-creating a first love, loss of a child, loss of a spouse, all the way to just a very specific desire. It's quite possible that she is combining all those or parts of them. What matters is what you want or don't want. You should be honest with her about having to control your reactions, and tell her right then whether you are willing to take it further, or you want to cut it off completely, or are willing to cuddle without any stroking.

[talaniman]

She is making you her boy toy, and if you sit and say nothing then she willcontinue her seduction.

Instead of laying their lapping up her gifts, talk and get clarity from her as to what REALLY her intentions are. Its you that allow this, and its YOU that must decide what to do, and the terms and boundaries that need setting.

[jalandharan]

I just expressed honestly for her question that I am feeling a bit scared as I'm new to all this feel given by a mother.She still wonders why! She asks me, "then how will i express my love for you that even YOU dont understand nor the world".

Yes she has a feel that she has no boy kid.

Since she is stuck to wheel chair always she can hug only when a person lies next to her. But her cuddle was too much towards chest and under arms over the shirt. That made me suspect and feel terribly sad and frightening!

[talaniman]

Just be honest about you being uncomfortable right now, and set boundaries that YOU are comfortable with. That's how most human interactions go. No more laying in bed to cuddle/hug.

[Homegirl 50]

Set boundaries with her. Tell you what you will not tolerate. To say nothing is giving her the green light. Lying down and cuddling with her is a bit much in my opinion. I would have put a stop to that right away.