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    ummkhamsa Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 10, 2013, 02:36 PM
    My husband doesn't mind that my 2 yr old is present when we kiss.
    Dear readers,

    The other day I was making out with my husband and he got an erection. My 2 year old girl would usually jump in between us and she did that, and my husband didn’t seem to mind that she was sitting on his lap while he had erection. Ok maybe by mistake someone might not be able control in the beginning if you are busy making out but he didn’t move her or block her or close his legs etc. He just kept making out with me and his legs were just apart enough for her to sit on the bed in between and I was the one to block her (thankfully) because she kept on jumping on him and sitting on his lap etc. Am I overreacting? Is this normal appropriate behavior?

    He has his own room and couple of times he has locked himself up with her just after shower to change just for a minute or two or once when I went in to his room I saw his back towards me while he was in bed wearing a blanket and he was raising it away from my daughter and it was blocking him waist to down from me. My 2 year old gave a nervous giggle, he quickly covered himself and it looked like he was trying to put on some clothes under his blanket. Since he sleeps in his own room I sleep in our master bedroom with my girl.

    He once came to my room in the morning and he had a hard on. My daughter was still nursing at that time he said let me wash her face and took her while I lay on the bed. After a couple of seconds I just had this strange felling, I went the toilet. The toilet door was open and I was exactly behind him. The sink was in front him, the tap water was on and I couldn’t see it. He was holding the baby in front of him (I don’t know how) and moving back and forth, when he felt that I was there he stopped. To date I don’t know what that was because I didn’t see. Wouldn’t anybody be holding a baby under their armpits just touching the ribs on their side lowering the babies face or something for such tasks?
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    Mar 10, 2013, 03:21 PM
    So, you are worried that your husband is molesting your daughter? Why do you allow this?
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    Mar 10, 2013, 03:28 PM
    There is so much wrong with this.

    Why does your husband have his own room? Why do you not share a room?

    When you were making out, did you say no? Did you tell him to stop? From your post, it doesn't sound like you did, even after he got an erection and your daughter joined the "festivities". :(

    You think your husband is molesting your child. From what you posted, it sounds like he might be. So, why haven't you done anything about it? Obviously you don't trust him, otherwise you wouldn't have separate bedrooms. But you still make out with him. Why aren't you protecting your child?

    On a side note, please stop using text talk when you write It's almost impossible to understand. Your post was very hard to read.
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    Mar 10, 2013, 04:04 PM
    Alty, Jennie, this post is just so WRONG. I just wish, hope, this situation is untrue and this is just a troll as it might be given the upsetting content.
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    Mar 10, 2013, 04:54 PM
    That's not right. Keep the 2 year old away and have a good long talk with him that he is not welcome to show his parts or share his nakedness with the 2 year old. When you were "making out" and the 2 year old got up on his lap, it should have stopped and you could have continued at a later time. Something is not right and you need to keep an eye out. I am presuming that your husband is NOT the child's father.
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    Mar 10, 2013, 04:54 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by tickle View Post
    Alty, Jennie, this post is just so WRONG. I just wish, hope, this situation is untrue and this is just a troll as it might be given the upsetting content.
    Me too!
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    Mar 10, 2013, 06:13 PM
    That's sound so wrong you need to keep him away from your child.
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    Mar 13, 2013, 03:37 PM
    I am astonished by this whole situation - OP is very concerned about whether her sister has to marry the partner chosen for her by their father. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marria...ge-737824.html

    Here the child is obviously being subjected to something - and I see no concern.

    Strange priorities.

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