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					  Originally Posted by  cdad
					 
				 
				I dont know as I dont grill my friends as you are attempting to do here.  I accept them without having to question it.  It is their choice.  Not mine. 
			
		 
	 
 So you consciously chose the sexual orientation to be straight. 0n your sixth birthday? When?
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  talaniman
					 
				 
				Sexual orientation is NOT a civil right. Its the way you are born. If all men are created equal, how can you define gay people as less. And how much less are they? 3/5ths, half, or LESS? 
			
		 
	 
 If it is not a civil right then you can't use the 14th amendment to defend being gay.  That is the point of the argument.  It was implied earlier that it was.
 
If it were elevated to a civil right then you open the door to anything goes based on preference.
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  Wondergirl
					 
				 
				So you consciously chose the sexual orientation to be straight. 0n your sixth birthday? when? 
			
		 
	 
 It goes further back then my memories take me.  Before 6 years old.
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  cdad
					 
				 
				It goes further back then my memories take me.  Before 6 years old. 
			
		 
	 
 C'mon. You didn't choose anything. You were always straight. You were born straight.
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  Wondergirl
					 
				 
				C'mon. You didn't choose anything. You were always straight. 
			
		 
	 
 The choice to act upon it.  Have you missed that part of the argument?
 
Are you still contending that sexual preference is a civil right?
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  cdad
					 
				 
				The choice to act upon it.  Have you missed that part of the argument? 
 
Are you still contending that sexual preference is a civil right? 
			
		 
	 
 Preference or orientation? There's a difference.
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  Wondergirl
					 
				 
				Preference or orientation? There's a difference. 
			
		 
	 
 Preference.  As it is a choice to participate.
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  cdad
					 
				 
				Preference.  As it is a choice to participate. 
			
		 
	 
 Participate in what? So a same-sex couple could marry as long as they don't consummate the marriage?
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  Wondergirl
					 
				 
				Participate in what? So a same-sex couple could marry as long as they don't consummate the marriage? 
			
		 
	 
 Nope.  That is against the law.
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  cdad
					 
				 
				Nope.  That is against the law. 
			
		 
	 
 Well, then, as long as they don't "participate," it should be legal.
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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        I'm with excon -- 
 
This is really simple.. people who joined in civil unions DID NOT have the same rights as those who entered marriage... The challenge to DOMA is about THOSE rights... 
 
excon 
 
Civil unions are NOT the same as marriage, do not convey nearly the same large number of rights.
     
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  Wondergirl
					 
				 
				Well, then, as long as they don't "participate," it should be legal. 
			
		 
	 
 Actually no.  In many states that would be grounds for divorce.  Also marriage under false pretense.
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  Wondergirl
					 
				 
				I'm with excon -- 
 
This is really simple.. people who joined in civil unions DID NOT have the same rights as those who entered marriage... The challenge to DOMA is about THOSE rights... 
 
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 Why didn't they have the same rights?
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  cdad
					 
				 
				Why didnt they have the same rights? 
			
		 
	 
 Because conservative Christians said marriage is between a male and a female (never mind the OT record of mistresses and concubines -- one man and how ever many women).
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  Wondergirl
					 
				 
				Because conservative Christians said marriage is between a male and a female (never mind the OT record of mistresses and concubines -- one man and how ever many women). 
			
		 
	 
 But you didn't answer the question.  Why didn't civil unions have the same rights?
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  cdad
					 
				 
				But you didnt answer the question.  Why didnt civil unions have the same rights? 
			
		 
	 
 Tell me.
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  Wondergirl
					 
				 
				Tell me. 
			
		 
	 
 I asked you first :)
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  cdad
					 
				 
				I asked you first :) 
			
		 
	 
 I'm just a feeble-minded woman. :D Tell me.
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  Wondergirl
					 
				 
				I'm just a feeble-minded woman. Tell me. 
			
		 
	 
 Too late now.  Maybe a trip to the library is in order for you.
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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					  Originally Posted by  cdad
					 
				 
				Too late now.  Maybe a trip to the library is in order for you. 
			
		 
	 
 Library's closed. I'll ask tal or excon.
      
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
  
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