[lushsy]

I have been chatting with a gentleman online little over a year now and he is in america I am in the uk and he is 55 I am 32 but we are great together, we have fun in chatrooms and people always see us as a couple and he always tells me how much he loves me, but I have been promised pictures, photographs from him for months now and I have not received one... he has seen many of me and every time I ask him he either gets moody or tells me he promises they will be with me shortly I mean yes he may well be in love with me but how can he expect me to love him back when I don't even have a visual of him and I do get frustrated with this... can he really love me or is he playing games... someone please help

[Krs]

Now I'm going to be blunt, you are 32, you are not a child.

Can you seriously believe someone who says they love you when they never met you?
I know you have been chatting for 1 year and probably got to know each other in some way or another.. but love.. that's a big word, especially since you never met each other in person.

[lushsy]

Thanks once again

[Krs]

Anytime :)

[smoothy]

Anything that happens online can not be counted on. For all you know He might really be a 60 year old 400 lb lesbian. Trust me in a lot of people make this mistake. Its really easy to pretend to be something you are not online. It's a lot harder to lie face to face.

[phillysteakandcheese]

From what you've described, the guy is simply stringing you along.

Until you have met face to face and talked to each other, you only know what the guy has presented to you on-line - Which may be a total fabrication.

[lushsy]

Ty for your input it is much appreciated

[EnglishRose]

They are right hun. Love is about really knowing someone and until you spend time with someone in real life you can't know them for the simple fact that there is always time to think about what you are going to say and that there is no way for anyone to prove you are lying. This means they can always tell you what they think you want to here. In that situation anyone can be lovable (I'm 21, a size 6 with long blonde hair and... you get the gist). The fact that this man won't even show you a photo means that there can be no physical attraction and it is still possible to know someone is attractive and yet not feel a spark when you are with them. There is, however, the posibility that this man is worried that you will not find him attractive and is insecure especially as there is an age difference.
Another important thing is that you do no know he is not in another relationship and whether this relationship can go any where.

[shygrneyzs]

If he cannot even send you a simple picture - which can be a doctored picture anyway - why can't he invest a few dollars for a webcam, so you can see him just as he is?

I agree with the other posters - over a year now and nothing much to go on except a promise here and there for a photo. He, in his mind, probably does love you - but there are various levels of love. His, from what it sounds, does not match yours.

I know there are those who state online relationships work - I think they can - but I know more who have been burned and lied to and misrepresented to, etc. It is too easy to make a claim and not have to back it up - then hold off backing it up. This guy appears to be a player. You deserve better.

[ncgirl_21]

This is a very touchy subject for me because I meet my fiancée online just about 3 yrs ago he and I talked for about a month when he sent me a message that said he loved me he had seen pics of me but I hadn't seen any of him until about 6mo after we had been talking but I had feel for him before seeing his pic we talked every night and anytime anything bad was happening we would stay up all night to support the other on the phone we never actually physically met till a year and 3mos later and that very day we moved into togather so yeah I think its possible to fall in love over the internet,and now we're getting married in October. I don't think that you have to physically see or be with someone before you can say you love them I wouldn't have cared if hed been the ugliest person in the world I'd still stayed with him. As far as this guy not sending you a pic he could be very insecure with himself or he's trying to make himself look better before you do see him he is older than you, so was the guy that I met I was 19 and he was 26 so there's a bit of age diffrence there and you can't say we were lustful of one another either and that's why we said I love you I'm positive it was cause we meant it.

[diya]

Listen... all this online stuff is for fun.. don't take it seriously unless you intend to settle down with someone u don't even know enough... reality and virtuality are two different things and you are the one to decide what kind of life u want to lead.. real or unreal...