[Bamagirl47]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months and when we first got together, it was AMAZINg. I felt like I was in high school again, we were inseparable, we stayed up till 5 in the morning talking, kissing, laughing, all that good stuff.
Lately we've been arguing damn near everyday. He's recently lost his father, has bipolar disorder and is on several medications as well as smoking weed all day everyday. He hasn't worked since we first met either. I pay for his cigs, most of the time pay for his weed, an let him use my car anytime he wants. We argue about almost everything, because he's unhappy with all the loss he's experienced, I'm starting to think the depression is contagious.
I feel neglected and like everything I do isn't enough. He's says I don't like anything he does... don't like his movies, his music, his habits, etc.
I love this man to death and I can't imagine losing him but we come so close to breaking up on a regular basis that I don't know what to do.
We also haven't had sex in almost 2 weeks... I mean we're both in our 20's and I feel Like this shouldn't be happening. I've tried everything, sexy underwear, flirting, down right going for it and I just get rejected. His excuses are endless... stomach ache, don't feel like it, headache blah blah. I'm so frustrated that I can't even sleep anymore. The most sincere answers I've gotten out of him are that he just can't get himself into the mood.
I just need help because I'm terrified of losing him, but really want my needs to be met the same way I meet all of his needs. So confused.

[Oliver2011]

It sounds like you love him and he loves your money and you footing the bill. Would he still be around if you weren't? Do you see this as a long term arrangement? If so then you really need to set your sights a lot higher for yourself. Set some boundaries and limitations with him. It is time he grew up. Yes loss hurts, we've all been there and survived.

[smoothy]

Heavy pot use wilts the willy (and every day IS heavy pot use)... medications can do the same thing...

The fresh meat excitement wearing off cuts your drive too.

First thing he NEEDS to do is lay off the pot and deal with life... he does NEED his medicine for his bipolar disorder however.