[Playbunny]

Today my boyfriend told me one of his sister she is 12 told him she is bisexual my boyfriend its really sad we are not against of bisexual people that their choice I really don't know what to say his sad to hear something like that coming from his 12 year old sister what could I do ? Or what could I say ?

[Wondergirl]

She's a bit young to know this. Wait until her hormones settle down around the age of 18.

When did you choose to be straight?

[playbunny_1995]

I don't blame her when I was around her age I was confused I told my friend I was bi I kiss girls in the mouth I think she is thinking like me boys in school are ugly and immature... But what should I do if she is serious ? What should I tell my boyfriend to do or say
?

[Wondergirl]

She is 12 years old. It is not important what she says at this point in her life. Stop the drama.

Sexuality is not a choice.

[playbunny_1995]

Ok

[Cat1864]

Playbunny, if you aren't against bi-sexuality, then why does anything need to be said? If she is or isn't bi is something she will have to work out for herself. No other person can do that for her.

However, this is not about the sister but your boyfriend's thoughts, feelings and opinions. I will guess that it isn't her sexuality that is causing him to feel 'sad', but what her discussing it means.

Some big brothers have problems with allowing their little sisters to grow up. His little sister is growing up and learning what she thinks and feels. While talking about school and career choices, it is easy to pretend she is still a 'kid' believing anything brother says. When she talks about sexuality and boy/girlfriends, it is more difficult to think of her as the baby he watched learn to walk.

He probably gave her support while she was talking those first wobbly steps and picked her up when she fell down. This is a new stage in her life and she learning to walk her own path in life. He should still be the big brother who will be there to give her support when she needs it and to help her up when she falls.

Don't put yourself in between them. Be there to listen. Remain objective enough to keep him from over reacting. But for the most part let him deal with his issues on his own.

[playbunny_1995]

Cat1864 thank you... I understand I was the spot that girl was I just got worry because my boyfriend was cry when he heard that he never expected that her 12 year old sister will say that and it's true you can't tell her what to do with her sexual life and yeah my boyfriend got to understand that her sister is growing so I'm going to tell him don't do anything ill be their for him he said he felt mad sad he didn't know what he was feeling and I got worry he would have done something bad

[J_9]

Why do you have 2 usernames?

[playbunny_1995]

I don't !

[odinn7]

You do. You asked the question as Playbunny and now you're Playbunny 1995.

So anyway, I have no idea why you feel you need to say or do something. She's not dying... if she is bisexual, so what?

[playbunny_1995]

Idk why it's like that... Well I don't know what to do when my boyfriend called me and said that... he ask me what he should do and I didn't have a clue I just think it's wrong for a 12 year old girl to say but it's her sexuality I understand I can't tell her what to do

[J_9]

You can continue to use this account. The other one has been closed.

[playbunny_1995]

Oh OK thanks