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    khwezi2009 Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 21, 2013, 01:38 AM
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    I met my husband in 2007. When I met him he had a baby which he was staying with him and this baby is a special need child which was also abused by his mother. In 2008 we got married and I took the child to stay with my mother, in 2011 the child started staying with us and that's when the problem starts, my husband will look in everything I do with the child and complain about it, saying you shouting the child, don't ask the child If he is hungry just give him the food you know he likes food.

    In 2012 the child's mother appeared looking for her child and we give the child to her, 3 months down the line we got the call from the child's school and the child said he doesn't want to stay with his mother and he came back in December last year, now the child is staying with us again and the father is still complaining and he also said he wanted to take the child and go because he can't relax whilst his child is being abused again.

    Now I don't know what to do anymore and I'm really confuse and when it comes to this child my husband closes his ears let alone we have our child also. Please help.
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    Feb 21, 2013, 07:17 AM
    "You took the child to stay with your mother"
    Why did you do this?

    Why are you staying with your mother ?

    Where is husband ? Why is he not caring for the child?
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    Feb 21, 2013, 07:27 AM
    The child did stay with my mother in 2008 but now he is staying with us, my husband is working 150km away from home he come home on Saturday and goes back on Monday morning sometimes he comes back during the week... I'm not staying with my mother we have our own place
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    Feb 21, 2013, 07:54 PM
    Maybe he is looking for an excuse to leave.
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    Feb 21, 2013, 08:22 PM
    He is overcompensating. You need to firmly tell him that if you are good enough to care for his child and yours all week, then you are good enough to care for them on the weekend too. Better yet, let him do it all on his own, with both kids.

    Wouldn't you love to have the weekends off to shop and pamper yourself?
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    Feb 21, 2013, 08:27 PM
    I really don't know what to do guys really, it seems as if he doesn't trust me around his child..
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    Feb 21, 2013, 08:41 PM
    He trust you enough to take care of him during the week.
    You need to talk to him. Ask him what is problem is.
    I think he is looking for an excuse to leave.
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