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titanic2011 · Feb 20, 2013, 04:49 AM

I met this girl online and we went on 2 dates over a span of 10 days. She doesn't have a vehicle so I had to meet her both times in her city, about 30 miles from me. We talked on the phone a number of times before we actually did go out. The first time we went for a few drinks, and just recently we went to dinner. We kept it pretty fun and it didn't appear to get awkward or stressful for neither of us. For drinks she paid a round and I paid around. For dinner, I insisted I pay since I invited her, even though she said she felt bad about it, and was weird like that.

The thing that make me wonder is that I can't tell if she is interested or not, as she is hard to read. Both times I asked if I can pick her up or drop her off (again, we spoke on the phone hours before so we seemed pretty comfortable) but she just mentioned she would get a taxi. Maybe she just doesn't want me to drive another 10 minutes out of the way to do that, I don't know. At the end of the dates we just hugged. There wasn't really any time or moment for anything more. Both times I initiated going out. I don't know if I should initiate again or just see if she reaches out. We don't really text too much, which I like, as I don't have too much time on hands when at work. And as far as talking on the phone after the first date we talk a little but try to keep it short. I guess what is different from this girl then others is that others text quite a bit and talk on the phone more, which may be part of the reason I can't get a good read on her.

She does have a lot of guy friends it seems, and one I believe from out of town stayed with her just before our first date and is coming again this week. Not sure if there is anything there.

But anyway, overall thoughts?

Homegirl 50 · Feb 20, 2013, 08:33 AM

You can call and tell you you enjoyed the time with her and look forward to seeing her again when and if she is ready. She knows where you stand and the ball is now in her court.
Let her initiate the next conversation

titanic2011 · Feb 20, 2013, 07:06 PM

she initiates random text chats. Doesn't really call

Homegirl 50 · Feb 20, 2013, 07:11 PM

She has some interest if she texts you. You can still call her.

titanic2011 · Feb 20, 2013, 07:48 PM

It normally results in that though. Me calling her.as sometimes texting does get annoying when its easier to talk.

Fr_Chuck · Feb 20, 2013, 07:50 PM

Many women meeting a random person online would, and to be honest should not allow them to know exactly where they live. It also stops the "let me stay the night" issue many men do.

But for the first couple of dates, her meeting you, is exactly what is suppose to happen.

And after two dates and 10 days, she may not even be sure what she feels yet. Very early.

If she is still texting she likes you at least some

Fr_Chuck · Feb 20, 2013, 07:51 PM

Texting, get over it, a lot of women love to text,

If you don' perhaps drop this girl and find another

titanic2011 · Feb 20, 2013, 08:14 PM

Point taken on the picking up. I was reading other posts and sites and people said you should be a gentleman and do that.

titanic2011 · Feb 20, 2013, 08:15 PM

What about initiating to do something? Do I let her ask me?

Homegirl 50 · Feb 20, 2013, 08:26 PM

Call her and tell her you enjoyed your time with her and look forward to another date when and if she is interested. She will contact you if she is.
I don't like to text myself, a phone call would speak volumes.
Meeting you someplace is good, not having you take her home is good. She is being safe as she should be.

titanic2011 · Feb 20, 2013, 08:33 PM

Yeah the night we went out she told me to text me when I got home. So when I did I just texted her that, and told her I had a great time and would love to do it again. Left it at that.

Homegirl 50 · Feb 20, 2013, 08:47 PM

Has she contacted you since then?

titanic2011 · Feb 21, 2013, 03:47 AM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Has she contacted you since then?

Yes, not a calll but just random texts.

Homegirl 50 · Feb 21, 2013, 07:21 AM

Well she has not thrown you away, she's texxting. If there wasn't something there she would not be texting you. Ask her out again if you want. Or call her.

titanic2011 · Feb 23, 2013, 08:08 PM

Well she had some guy friend from out of town over during the week for a few days so I didn't really text her much. Then on fri morning after the guy left I texted her to see if see what's up and we shot a few texts. Then I asked if she wanted to do something this weekend. Have not heard from her since.

Homegirl 50 · Feb 23, 2013, 08:24 PM

Maybe you can tell more if you go out with her again.

titanic2011 · Feb 24, 2013, 07:59 AM

Well the last we talked was me asking her to hang out. We have not spoken in days so clearly I get the vibe she is not interested. I don't want to contact her for awhile as I don't want to seem desperate, and I was the one who asked her out on the last 2 occasions.

Homegirl 50 · Feb 24, 2013, 08:10 AM

Then go on about your business. She will contact you if she's interested

titanic2011 · Feb 24, 2013, 09:01 AM

That's what I figured. I left her a message last. I was thinking about calling her today or tomorrow to see how her weekend went, but seeing how I made most of the effort by evening going out to her town to see her, I don't want to seem like THAT guy, as I tend do that, become the caterer.

titanic2011 · Feb 26, 2013, 04:02 PM

Have not heard from her yet