[amitpowermail]

One of my friend was asking me what should he do on below issue.
His would be wife has very bad academic record. Will she be a very good partner if we think about intelligence?

[Homegirl 50]

There are a lot of well educated and intelligent A-holes and idiots. Her academic record has nothing to with what kind of wife she will be.

[tickle]

Brains aren't everything. So he would not marry her if she didn't fulfill his expectations of a person of interest, but not too much upstairs?

There are a lot more attributes then brains that make a good wife and maybe he should consider her possibilities another way. Many ways as a matter of fact. Is she kind? Does she like children? Is she a good cook? Does she make him happy? Is she a good conversationalist?

How does he know that she is not as intelligent as he would like ?

[JudyKayTee]

If your friend has to ask if you think the prospective bride is intelligent enough for him to marry I would suggest that he's not old enough to consider marriage.

To be very frank I find it odd that you discuss your girlfriend's "morals" (for lack of another word) with your friends AND take their criticism to heart; your friends discuss their girlfriends' intelligence with you AND take your advice to heart.

What Country, just out of curiosity?

[joypulv]

Are you pretending to be your friend?
Are you really talking about your girlfriend, and afraid we are going to say pretty much what we said about rumors about her past?

[amitpowermail]

Are you pretending to be your friend?
Are you really talking about your girlfriend, and afraid we are going to say pretty much what we said about rumors about her past?

No , Ma'am, this is for one of my friend.

[JudyKayTee]

Joy is a female - and she asked a very good question.

[amitpowermail]

Joy is a female - and she asked a very good question.

He is my friend. And it's a arranged marriage.

[joypulv]

OK, just checking.
Most of us here are American or Canadian or from the UK. There are of course responders from all over the world, but many of us don't automatically assume an arranged marriage.
I would say that it would only be a bad match if he perceives it to be one. She may be very intelligent and just is not interested in academics. If your friend is going to be very busy with a career, he might do well having an equally career-minded wife, and they can hire help around the house. But if he wants a wife who is happy to stay home and cook and clean and raise children, is that fair to a woman who studies hard for a career?

[amitpowermail]

OK, just checking.
Most of us here are American or Canadian or from the UK. There are of course responders from all over the world, but many of us don't automatically assume an arranged marriage.
I would say that it would only be a bad match if he perceives it to be one. She may be very intelligent and just is not interested in academics. If your friend is going to be very busy with a career, he might do well having an equally career-minded wife, and they can hire help around the house. But if he wants a wife who is happy to stay home and cook and clean and raise children, is that fair to a woman who studies hard for a career?

Right . :)

[JudyKayTee]

I thought there was no choice in an arranged marriage - ?