[Es8745]

Except for last 6 months I raised my grandson. Since he started school my daughter now has him living with her. Her views on disipline and meds are very different than mine. She has limited or stopped his vists with me and everyone that has been in his whole 5 years of life. His behavior has drasticly changed and now she has him on ADHD meds. Then she's talking possible bi-polar meds. I strongly believe it is only the changes in his life. Before he was very well behaved, mild mannered little boy. Is there anything I can do?

[GV70]

OK-a parent has fundamental right to upbringing his/her child.
What exactly do you want? A medical advice?ADHD is a neurobehavioral disorder

[Es8745]

Yes, I agree and I want her to raise him. My concern is his emotional and physical well being. My daughter loves drama and to be in the spot light. He never displayed behavior issues and was a model child at his day care. He wasn't perfect of course, but nothing to the degree she is telling the doctor. Again, I believe he is acting out his anger and frustration due to the changes.

[GV70]

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder is predominantly a genetic disorder and is diagnosed through a psychiatric assessment.

[Wondergirl]

My brother in law and his wife are terrible parents, but managed to get their out-of-control daughter on ADHD meds. Of course, the doctor doesn't realize her behavior is because of poor parenting and not setting good limits, but thinks the little girl herself is a mess.

Could that possibly be the situation in your case?

[Es8745]

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder is predominantly a genetic disorder and is diagnosed through a psychiatric assessment.

The pediatrician takes the assessment of the parent and of the teacher will will prescribe meds. My daughter doesn't feel like the changes are an issue so she didn't tell the doctor (a new one) about them.

[Es8745]

My brother in law and his wife are terrible parents, but managed to get their out-of-control daughter on ADHD meds. Of course, the doctor doesn't realize her behavior is because of poor parenting and not setting good limits, but thinks the little girl herself is a mess.

Could that possibly be the situation in your case?

Not really the same. He has faced changes in the following... sleep patterns and habits, disipline, types of foods and nutriention, respect to him, lost of life long play mates, life long adult role models... Everything has been changed or taken away from him.

[Wondergirl]

Not really the same. He has faced changes in the following...sleep patterns and habits, disipline, types of foods and nutriention, respect to him, lost of life long play mates, life long adult role models ... Everything has been changed or taken away from him.

So he has gone from being in a good-parenting situation to a bad-parenting one?

Does she see a counselor on a regular basis? If so, ask to be included in a counseling session or two, not to yell at her but to work out a plan for the child. Just the fact he has experienced such a drastic change must be upsetting, so you and your daughter need to find common ground for yourselves and for him.

[Es8745]

So he has gone from being in a good-parenting situation to a bad-parenting one?

Does she see a counselor on a regular basis? If so, ask to be included in a counseling session or two, not to yell at her but to work out a plan for the child. Just the fact he has experienced such a drastic change must be upsetting, so you and your daughter need to find common ground for yourselves and for him.

That would be great but she refuses. I've asked for the two of us, I've asked for him and I've offered to pay for it. Problem is, she has started living around a new group of people that she hasn't been honest with all told stories to make herself to look good and the victim. A house of cards would crash down. Since she won't be honest, I am wondering if there's anything I can do to protect him from being put on meds he doesn't need.