[KarenJ]

So here's the story, hope you have the time!
I met this man years ago, but had to end it all. Never really got over him, always wondered how he was doing and if he was still alive. Call it fate/destiny/whatever, I recently got in touch with him but he had a vague memory of me. Sent him pics to refresh his memory. He said I was beautiful, sexy, and cute! But there was a "but". The first time he wanted to tell me what the "but" meant, he changed his mind, and left me wondering for months, even though I sort of knew what it was all about. I pushed and begged to get it out of him, but he said he didn't want to hurt my feelings. Anyway he finally told me that he prefers and usually dates slim women. And you probably guessed, I'm not slim! I do remember, telling him to tell me the truth no matter what (on what he thought of the pictures). He said that this would not stop him, though because we have a "deep connection" and he wants to pursue the relationship. But all of a sudden I feel insecure and don't know what to do. Should I leave him alone? Should I be insulted? I'm not sure what to do, because I do really like him, and I feel the "deep connection". What should I do?:confused: :confused: :confused:

[Cobrastirke]

Judging by what you have said in your post, he seems like a pretty shallow guy. My advice is to just leave him alone, he may just be pursuing this relationship out of sympathy, but that doesn't stop you from asking his real feelings on the subject.

Communication is the key!

[talaniman]

I think he will string you along to get a free piece, and how did he forget that deep connection when you talked to him? You had to jog his memory remember. Don't fall for that deep connection BS. Don't jump into this with eyes closed, or he will hand you your heart. Personally I think you should get over him fast, and leave him alone. Move to something better.

[Parajr]

At least he was honest about what he likes. He could have just lied told you what you needed to hear and bump you off after he had what he wanted. If you choose to pursue this know that he will have that to hold over your head whenever he needs too.

[chuff]

I think he's setting himself up as the good guy after he uses you.

He told you that he likes slim girls but also feels a deep connection to you... after you had to send him photos to remind him. So he told you what he likes now and in the future, after he dumps you for a slim girl he will then say, "Well I told you that I liked slim girls, so this is not my fault. You had to see it coming."

So my advice would be see it coming before you hear it from him. There are plenty of men who do not like the thin women so why not make yourself available to them.