[bigtimepuck]

My girlfriend put us on a break cause she feels I am too touchy around other girls and that I get mad when she hangs out with a guy. We still talk daily in the same manner as we used to but she doesn't know if she wants to be together. She says she needs time to think about if she wants to be with me. Should I give her space, or will that make her think I don't care?

[MikeBear]

She is asking you for time. So, giving her some time to think about this is the only fair thing to do. If she really doesn't mean it, she shouldn't have said it in the first place. I would give her time to decide what she really wants. Meantime, I would talk with whoever I wanted to.

[bigtimepuck]

She is asking you for time. So, giving her some time to think about this is the only fair thing to do. If she really doesn't mean it, she shouldn't have said it in the first place. I would give her time to decide what she really wants. Meantime, I would talk with whoever I wanted to.

Won't it make her think I don't care or am not sorry for what I did? I feel like she wants to break up with me but she is too scared to actually do it for good... she keeps saying to still be faithful to each other and such.

Any way of getting her back?

[talaniman]

Be faithful and such with no commitment?? Hell NO!! Either she forgives and gives you a second chance to do better, or cuts you loose for good. Either way leave her alone to figure out what she wants, and you don't just sit in limbo until she decide. A break is a break up and either she takes you back or she doesn't. You have already apologized for being the biggest A$$HOLE in he world. Begged too, no doubt, and that's far enough not to mention pathetic.

Have you no dignity and self respect? Stop allowing this punishment even though you probably deserve it. Do better and it will be better, but first get off your knees.

[bigtimepuck]

Be faithful and such with no commitment??? Hell NO!!!!!!!! Either she forgives and gives you a second chance to do better, or cuts you loose for good. Either way leave her alone to figure out what she wants, and you don't just sit in limbo until she decide. A break is a break up and either she takes you back or she doesn't. You have already apologized for being the biggest A$$HOLE in he world. Begged too, no doubt, and thats far enough not to mention pathetic.

Have you no dignity and self respect? Stop allowing this punishment even though you probably deserve it. Do better and it will be better, but first get off your knees.

She still texts me everyday should I just say I think its best we don't talk until you figure out if you want me or not? That'll put a thought into her head about losing me for good

[talaniman]

I like that approach.

[Wondergirl]

And tell her ONCE and then do not answer if she texts again. No more apologies from you, no explanations, no excuses -- she wants a break which means you owe her nothing and are totally away from her, no strings. If you play her "break-up" game with answering her when she whistles, you give her all the power.

[bigtimepuck]

I like that approach.

The pther night we were talking and I was saying some stuff like I would rather you just be happy so I accept your decision and she thought I was breaking up with her and kind of got all flustered and was saying like I'm trying to process what just happened did you just break up with me? So I'm taking that is a good sign?

[bigtimepuck]

And tell her ONCE and then do not answer if she texts again. No more apologies from you, no explanations, no excuses -- she wants a break which means you owe her nothing and are totally away from her, no strings. If you play her "break-up" game with answering her when she whistles, you give her all the power.

The pther night we were talking and I was saying some stuff like I would rather you just be happy so I accept your decision and she thought I was breaking up with her and kind of got all flustered and was saying like I'm trying to process what just happened did you just break up with me? So I'm taking that is a good sign?
She didn't say it in a snotty way just like oh your not even going to fight for me kind of way it seemed

[Wondergirl]

She wants a break. Give her a break. No contact!!

[talaniman]

Maybe she wants flowers and candy and is pushing your buttons so you are confused and docile. I mean you weren't very nice before, and I can understand her reluctance but not the need to punish you and if fighting for her is groveling then NO WAY.

I can't understand why you didn't follow up when she thought you were dumping her. Just me enough games, arsehole or not, its time to make a decision as a week is enough punishment for your bad behavior.

[Homegirl 50]

Leave her alone. Tell her she can let you know when she has made up her mind but in the meantime no contact with her.