[daizeebug]

Okay so this is long, I've been best friends with this girl stacy and its always kind of been hard with her like she's one of those "high maintenence" kind of people...
But anyway in like the past year at school she's just started going out with guys and stuff and when she does she like forgets about me and our other friends and just focuses on the guy... she even stops eating and stuff, and I seriously want to help her with whatever she's going through and she just gets way defensive and closes me out and flips out on me over every little thing... just drama drama drama.
And we always have tons of fights that like send our friendship on the brink of ending completely and I end up trying to fix because I think we've been friends way too long to have this kind of crap come between us, but I'm always the one who fixes it... I've never in our 6 years of being friends heard her say sorry, to anyone... especially me.
So a few months ago we had another huge fight over a bunch of little things and it just made me realize that maybe we aren't really that good of friends... like myself esteem was at rock bottom and I was just like an emotional wreck but it thought it was in the best interest for everyone involved if like we stayed friends but not "best" friends. So I talked to her about it, and she actually agreed with me.
But at school she totally ignores me and acts like we've never met. But I've acted like it hasn't bothered me, and I've actually become a more stable person. I've lost a lot of weight since and myself esteem is way better, but I don't know if it's because I stopped being friends with her or not... but lately I've been feeling really bad about what happened, like I have to see her all the time she's in a bunch of my classes and I just can't help but thinking that I gave up too soon... like I should have tried harder..

So my question is should I tell her how I feel? That I'm sorry for whatever I did to contribute to the friendship being "on the rocks"? Or would it just make everything twenty times worse and more awkward? Keep in mind I sit right in front of her in one of my classes!

Need of help and confused!!
Daizeebug

[lfish2489]

It sounds to me like it was mostly her fault that your friendship didn't work out. I don't think you should tell her how you feel because I don't think she is worth the effort. If she has never once said sorry to you, she probably isn't that great of a friend. If you try to tell her how you feel it might just make things worse. I think you should try to find a new best friend. I've been in a situation like this before so I know how you feel. Good luck

[TheSavage]

Accord to your post -- knowing that I am only reading 1 side, it looks like you're the only one that was trying to kept the friendship alive. A true friendship [ and same would go for relationship ] is a 2 way street with both people participating.-- Savage

[Parajr]

Tell her how you feel at least all the cards will be on the table then move from there.

[ordinaryguy]

It sounds like you're maturing faster than she is. Unfortunately, some friendships don't survive the growth process, and this may be one that doesn't. The good news is that there are others in your future. I don't think it would accomplish anything to talk to her about it. Just continue to be as you are, but don't expect too much from her.

[Shybliss18]

It sounds like its your friends fault. You should wait until she comes to her senses. When she does I'm sure she will come up to you talk to you and eventually apologize to you. That's what happened a few times with me and my other friend Ive been friends for for 2 years. So just wait and not speak to her.

[iliavejur]

Don't feel bad for your friend she did it to herself best friends don't act like they don't know you because of some guy so just forget her move on when you see her just nod say hi but that's it don't wait around for her to grow up. You will know when you have a best friend they are there no matter what or who is in the way hope this helps