[Jitterbug17]

Well, I have been in a relationship for over 2 years. It has been very rocky. Most times we are fine but then we fight like crazy. In the past he has gotten a little physical but mostly I feel emotional and verbal abuse.

I admitted my past to him from the start of our relationship. Wasn't horrible but not perfect either. He accepted it. He accepted the fact I had a child.

Slowly, things have deteriorated. My health has dwindled. Every time I get diagnosed with another issue he gets ANGRY at me. My son was recently diagnosed with special needs and once again my boyfriend is MAD. These things are uncontrollable and he acts like Im guilty.

He claims to love me and my child, but he is constantly drudging up the past, rubbing things in my face, calling me names.


I have enough in my life to deal with without his BS.

Is this a defense / insecurity thing? Or did he out right lie about what he can handle.. is it too much? Is he just a jerk looking for HIS way and what HE wants and EXPECTS??

I am always made to feel like I am at fault. I am imperfect. I am not up to standards, etc.

The worst part is because he has been in our lives over 2 years, my son calls him dad. He tells me I can't go cause the baby will be heartbroken. etc.

My little guy just turned 3. Recently diagnosed special needs. I have so much going on. This "man" keeps making me feel sick, depressed. I just don't know what to do or think anymore.

Not to mention he "quit" his job AGAIN. He has been living off his sister's money and my checks... claiming he is going to start a new job or go do temp. work. But he just lazes around... at least he helps a little with the baby.

*sigh* Please.. I need some input.

[odinn7]

You want input? You're not going to like what you hear.

The guy is an abusive and controlling jerk. Everything you said about him proves that. He is living off you and using you as well.

You need to get out of this. Never mind that your son calls him daddy... this is a poor situation to be raising your child in.

[Wondergirl]

Why are you still with this abusive, lying, controlling, sorry piece of "manhood"? If for no other reason than for love of your child, please get out! Your child will someday thank you for not allowing him to be abused. Your growing bank balance will thank you too.