[jessicaho]

I'm 6 months pregnant, and I'm only 21 yrs old, the father the child is 30 yrs old and he left me because he don't want his child, he keeps on telling me to abort this child but I don't want to. I just graduated college, no job yet no income. I want to ask if what should I do? What if he will not recognized his son? What should I do? I have no enough money to support my child, I don't want to have abortion or adoption.

[AK lawyer]

After the child is born, you get a court order that he pay you child support and (incidentally) you should also ask for an order giving you sole custody of the child. In some places state agencies exist to do this; otherwise you would have to do it on you own. What else do you want to know?

[ScottGem]

Recognize his son

??

Where did you get that phrase from? This is not medieval times when nobles would have their way with peasant girls and then decline to acknowledge the offspring.

There are laws that cover paternity and support of children. He cannot force you to abort the child or give it up for adoption. However, since you say you can't afford to raise the child, I would suggest that you give serious consideration to adoption (its too late for abortion).

The law requires that a father support his child. But you can do nothing about support until the child is born. Once born, you apply for public assistance. They will usually help you file for child support from the father. If he denies paternity, the courts will require that he take a paternity test to establish paternity. If the tests shows him to be the father, the court will issue a support order based on his income. If he doesn't pay his salary will be garnished.

A word of warning here, father can avoid paying. They can disappear, work under the table, etc to try and other things to avoid paying. I don't know how important his job is to him.

Also note, that if you force him to pay support he may try to get custody from you. Ignore such threats as the court is unlikely to give him sole custody over you. But he can force visitation.

[joypulv]

What country are you in? You don't sound like English is your first language.

[Fr_Chuck]

I will agree with Scott on this, abortion time is passed, and the father can not force that to happen anyway. But with no income and the such adoption may not be bad either.

But once the child is born, you file in court to force him to take a DNA test and order him to pay child support. Now some men try not to pay, and others pay late all the time. So you can not expect this money right away , or may never get paid by him.

You need to go talk to the local social services about welfare, and the various aid for pregnant women and then babies available

[Fr_Chuck]

What country are you in? You don't sound like English is your first language.

Good catch, missed that, my answer is based on US

[ScottGem]

The IP does indicate Philippines. But their laws are similar to the US.

However, ANY question on law needs to include your general locale as laws vary by area.