[silver421]

Please help. I've been in a relationship for over a year and a half with the boyfriend. We've have our ups and downs because of trust issues. He is in healthcare, so he is a people person and is always in contact with a variety of patients. He has a very friendly personality and can be construed as flirty from others. He knows that some people see him that way but does not care because he is not intentionally flirting. I've accepted that and have tried to move on since that is just who he is, or so he says. With that being said, I still have some uncertainties.

I unfortunately snooped around my bf's computer where he stores all his pictures. I found inappropriate pictures from a recent intern, who no longer works there. I've met the girl before and she knows we are in a committed relationship. My blood is boiling because he has multiple pictures of her from several occasions. I do not know what to think or how to react, and whether I should confront him about it or not. I find that it's fishy that the intern had sent him pictures of herself in her bra and undies. Surely something must have prompted that. Besides him being an idiot for saving it onto his computer. I've also asked him about whether he's ever received inappropriate pictures from patients and interns before, to which he said no and that he would tell me because it is strange.

After that conversation, I was curious if he would delete the pictures because he knew that perhaps I was going to snoop or is guilty as charged…and guess what, he deleted them. Now I am torn on whether I should confront him about these pictures. I know he values his privacy a lot, but I feel that this is not right and is a bit disturbing to be honest. Is he reciprocating these pictures? Prompting them? He's not a child anymore. I don't know how to go about it without him trying to turn the table on me for snooping, which I know is awful. I'm very torn on what to believe now. I know he loves me and would like to marry me, but all of this seems so shady. What to do?

[jacobm28]

... if u really love him and respect him... he should give you the respect and honesty... just confront him about, his lying far outweighs your snooping... so very little grounds he will have to point the finger at you... but prepare for the anger and awkwardness that's going to follow... trust most likely diminish n thus relationship mught fail... because we all know... no trust=no relationship.

[jacobm28]

He knows what he's doing is wrong... you straight up witnessed it.. with the picture thing... one day there... next day not... so its on you... accept and drop it... and be always and forever not trusting him... or get it off your chest... cause its going to naw at you like a frickin chihuahua cause its going to keep bothering you and fester in your thoughts.