[elvispredster]

My grilfriend and I have been dating for one year and seven months now but five months before we made it official her boyfriend during that time had broken up with her. We knew of each other while they were dating but weren't really friends. Anyway, they both didn't speak to each other for a whole year. The only reason why they started communicating again was because of me. I felt weird that they didn't speak to each other. My problem is that now that,they're communicating he always reminsces about the past. I know they dated for two and a half years but shouldn't their,be a limit. It doesn't help that we kimda have the same circle of friends too so I don't really say much about it. I talked to her about it and thought the same thing about some of the things he says. At the same time she comments on her fb statuses too. Ugh I feel so immature feeling like this. Im 20 and she's 21 and so is her xbf. One time she had mistaken me from him after commenting his fb status. I handled it well but when I saw what they're talking about I felt like they're talking about the past. Also, my x from the pastwho I dated on and off for two years from 8th to 10th liked me after I broke up with her simce first year of college and she now has a boyfriend. But my girlfriend still feels weird if I talk to her. Ughhh help please..

[talaniman]

What's with you young guys who are so afraid to lose a girl if you stand for yourself, or express yourself honestly??

She is your girl, so talk to her. Get her feelings, and the facts, then act accordingly.

[nitelight198073]

I feel what is good for the goose is good for the gander... That means if she don't want you talking to your ex she should not be talking to hers, and vice versa... My boyfriend and I have an agreement becauase I have an soon to be X husband... I can talk to him on the phone but I cannot meet with him alone... and the same goes with his ex girlfriends... I think this arragement works out for us... just think about it and don't explode at her about this... It will make things worse.. talk civily.

[FLICKER689]

Okay frist off wow overwhelming to get in!! Anyhow listen she is ovisley thinking about him more often than usual which you can't blame her most people think about their x's I wouldn't assume that she is interested in him she has you for that but the whole fb thing that sounds as a jealous thing for you I mean if they isn't talking flirty or sexual u have no worries all people keep in touch or like to talk about good times just so talk its not a crime but then again I could be wrong she could still have feelings for this guy but is still interested or in love with you unless it gets worst I wouldn't worrie okay

[asaphmicah]

Hey everyone. Thanks for your responses. I have spoken to her about it multiple times. I brought up that there are just times that I think is inappropriate that she does with him. Like talk to him till past midnight and she hides the conversations from me. I wouldn't care as much but every time they reminisce I felt uncomfortable and ever since then I just wasn't comfortable what they talked about. She started hiding phone coversations with him two months before we broke up. She broke up with me and from what I know they slept two days after she broke up with me.
LESSON LEARNED. Its been three months. We dated for three years and two months. I don't how long she's kept those feelings for him but from what I snooped before I moved out was that they are already saying I love you to each other so I think its safe to assume they may have been together before we broke up. Anyway, if that was the case I am just lucky that I can kind of saw that one coming. I also started to fall out of love with her which kind of helped. Just the betrayal part kind of still irritates me. Haha.

[talaniman]

And who are you? New username or what?