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    Jan 12, 2013, 03:17 PM
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    Hi Guys. Just a quick question.

    Me and my ex have broken up. She was the one that broke it off with me, bearing in mind this is the 3rd time it's happened. We have been in a relationship for 4 years but had some problems to contend with. Now I know she loves me so much and it's the same here but I am confused as she saying as hard and sickening it is she just has to do it.

    As a guy I have been really emotional about it and tried asking her to reconsider but it didn't work. After speaking to close friends and family they say give her no contact and stay silent about the situation. Well 4 days ago she did send messages to me asking how my new job is going. But I didn't jump straight to the message and answer back. I answered after a few hours in-between and I replied to one of her questions and she then didn't reply. Could there be mind games what do you all think?

    As I have been with her for 4 years do you think she could move on so quickly despite we are both upset about the miscarriage as it's the second one and she gave other reasons like not enough attention and always arguing? My ex suffers from depression but I really understand her and accept her for who she is and want to be there for her. This year I wanted it to be about more me and her as we live long distance and I had plans on moving to her as she's helped me a lot financially and support.

    What do you guys say I do from here? Do I still keep quiet and give her the time? Do you see her coming back to me? What can I do to make her want to come back?

    I would appreciate the help so much.

    Thank you.
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    Jan 12, 2013, 05:42 PM
    Hi, I have been divorced before, after 8 yrs of marriage. I know the pain. You will be much better off by moving on. If she is really sincere, things would be different with her. Meet some new people, and try forgetting about her.
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    Jan 12, 2013, 06:01 PM
    When you get dumped you disappear, and heal by leaving the ex alone. No friend zone chit chat. Get your head clear of the shock, hurt, speculation, false hope, and overthinking.

    When was the last miscarraige?
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    Jan 12, 2013, 06:09 PM
    It is fairly obvious that this is a up and down relationship, she has left you 3 or 4 times over 4 years, no that is not a normal relationship.

    Could you perhaps get her back, "maybe" will it last, nope, unless both of you change and that would not happen without counseling and both people trying.

    I agree, break off all contact, take time alone, figure our what part of this is your fault and things you do, and work on changing you.
    Then start dating someone new and move on with life
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    Jan 13, 2013, 05:05 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    When you get dumped you disappear, and heal by leaving the ex alone. No friend zone chit chat. Get your head clear of the shock, hurt, speculation, false hope, and overthinking.

    When was the last miscarraige?

    The last miscarraige was in September, so you think if I clear my head she will come for me or I just leave her?

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