[cosmicnebula]

This may seem dumb: I've dated this guy and been on and off for about 3 months. I know in the past he has watched porn and masturbated when I'm not with him. And rarely has when I was with him (forgiving towards it/more lenient). But this is ironic because we just broke up recently and found just a day later after talking, he had a browser full of tabs of porn. Yet he wants me to be back with him? I feel I shouldn't be judgmental but really? Seems kind of like he's desperate and if a guy really wanted to be with me, he wouldn't resort to porn even if he's scared... It would make sense he wouldn't after just a day if he really wants me to be back with him. I feel I'm being contradicting, however, maybe I need to be straight to say I wouldn't want him associating porn while being together.

Also, one time while dating, I found he has hard drives full of porn and jokingly said, you should get rid of that. He said no. Where's a compromise? I'm not sure about the future with this... What do you all think? Help!

[Fr_Chuck]

Just drop him, he likes porn, and you have unrealistic ideas about guys and porn.

Sorry a large group of men will watch porn, most will be honest and tell you, others will lie when they find out you are against it. But they will still watch it.

He will watch it when he is with you, but you just don't know it, he will most likely maturbate to it some also. If not he will masturbate at some point anyway.

Porn has nothing to do with you, and is not about you.

So his wanting to get back together is not about porn,

Why do you think porn is a issue, do you think he does not watch it all the time even when he is with you