[daintybrat]

Okay, about a month ago I posted a situation I was in with my now ex. I was sick, I had cancer and was suffering from fibroid hormonal problems for the past 2 years and was in a roller coaster of a emotion ride until I had surgery 2 weeks ago and now I don't have the cancer or the hormonal problems and can live a healthy life. Well, me and my ex are over and I felt like I lost him because of the roller coaster we had from all of it. I can't just blame myself because he was not as supportive as he could be but I know it is maturity.

I am 26 and he is 27 and we had a long distant relationship where I am just now getting out of school and he graduated last year and trying to start his new life. I was upset because I felt like I was never incluced in his new life, never met his friends he met through teaching even though they started hanging out every weekend when me and him were not hanging out for we only live and 1 1/2 away from each other.

Well, he was not there for me for my surgeries and my cancer. I knew I had cancer but the doctor said it probably was not anything and do not worry about saying anything until I found exactly what kind because I was already worrying about my fibroid hormonal problems my ex new I was dealing with since we started dating. Well, I was frustrated with him about a few things and broke up with him and it really was because I was stressed and wanted to be taken seriously because I feel like he stopped taking me seriously the more hormonal I got. Well, a day later I went to try and work it out with him, he said he did not know what he wanted because he did not want to fight anymore. The next day I found out it was a cancer more serious than they thought and I told him.

I know it was not easy for him, I was confused as to how to feel sometimes and just be me and I tried so hard not to be moody but there were so many nights I would cry and pray it would go away. Well, many hormone therapy and prescriptions later even though my doctors and even professionals like psychiastrists said I was normal it was still hard to deal with.

I lost the one person I truly loved because I was confused but I know if we were meant to be he would understand right? Well, we talked the other day and he says he still loves me but we need to focus on ourselves and maybe one day we are meant to be but until then we should do our own thing. I totally understand and agree because he is selfish and is sort of stuck on hiself... I am trying to be objective and I have let go but what does anyone else think about this and do we have a chance in the future... I would like a guys perspective as well if possible.[/B]

[chuff]

I'm a guy and I think if someone I was dating was going through that I'd be a little more helpful and try to help out. I also think he's not as interested in you as you are him. I think by saying that maybe you have a chance one day it's his nice way of saying "it's not going to happen and I'm not going to flat out say it."

[daintybrat]

I understand in you saying that thank you. So him being all crying and hurt when I try to break up with and then now means I have no chance? Well, I am moving on regardless but it hurts because he was blaming me when I was hormonal and distant and it hurt because I did everything to be okay. No matter how many doctors and professionals said I was okay and normal I still felt confused and frustrated at my medical problems and I felt like our problems and him not taking me as serious was from that. I have a lot to look forward to and him not being as into me I think is because he is too selfish and not ready for anything like that. He used to tell me I was the one but the worse it got the more he ran towards his new life. I don't think that was fair but again I have to move on and say okay fine, do you think he will at least regret how he did not support me or treat me especially through this? Thanks

[talaniman]

As bad as you feel, and as disappointed as you are, its good you see his true self now, because you could be married with his children, and then been left out in the cold. Consider yourself lucky to be free to find a better partner, who won't run from problems but will help you face them.

[vlee]

You have a brand new start. You beat something so awful, and you did it alone. I think you should leave everything that began or ended in a lousy way and dump it all. Fill your life with all the wonderful things you feared you might never get the chance to have. Find a man who will love you and respect you and make you happy. You deserve smiles going forward.

[vlee]

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