[8578]

He was in a relationship with a woman 10 years older than him... it was more of a friends with benefits relationship... They were together for around 6 months. One year later him and I got engaged and married a year after that... I recently found out that he was still in touch with her all through out our engagement and marriage,, mostly when we used to get into fights... there was one time when she asked him if he was in love with me yet and he replied "sure I had to marry and have a family but for me love isn't easy to feel"...

How is that possible... He was so affectionate, we made love every day??

[nessa93]

I only offer a humble opinion here as unfortunately I don't know him personally but I can relate to your situation a bit...
I'm not trying to make you think such thoughts but are you positive that he ended the "benefits" part of their relationship? If he did then perhaps he looks to her as a sort of... "wiser" friend he can go to.

Were you a part of the conversation or did he or she inform you of his answer? If he is aware you know this I would simply ask him to elaborate a little bit but don't push him. A woman's intuition is a powerful thing so if you confront him and listen to his answer I would go with your instinct. Maybe he has a hard time opening up to emotions and he didn't say that he does not love you, maybe he thinks of love different then most. My boyfriend I referred to was the type to spoil me and make me feel like an absolute princess and he made it seem so clear to the world that he wanted to make us last... Then he spun around after a week of being sick and having all that time to his thoughts he went cold and claimed he realised he didn't feel anything for me. So, it can really go either way.

My advice would be to talk it over with him but keep things very relaxed so he is more apt to answer you honestly. Also do not approach it when he seems in a downward mood as this can lead him to give an answer or act in a way he would honestly regret or not mean. I hope I could help even a little bit... I know it isn't much but I do hope that it works out for you and that things stay good between you two :)

[Alty]

Here's a bit more info on the poster.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marria...er-719461.html

Have you resolved all the other issues you have in this relationship? Have you sought out counseling, as was suggested in your last thread? Have you talked to him about any of this?

[mark25624]

No 1 really knows about love.
You may think/know what love is!
He ay think/know otherwise!

Or he could be leaving his options open for him and her.
In case something goes wrong.

Ask him!
Your not gong to know what's what till you ask him!
And take it from there.