[Sadperson]

I think I know what my girlfriend is up to, with her friend with benefits!

My girlfriend's funny, she always tells me she's spending Xmas with her family and when I chat to her on the phone, keeps hinting how she's around (even my friends seem to be in on the joke!) Not to mention, I have to tolerate/put up with her big headed, irritating, annoying bro all the time! It's really funny actually, can't even call her because I know she won't pick up at any time, any day... I'm still with her, love makes you dumb.

We've been together for 4 years, first 2 years we were at it like rabbits, everyday up to 5 times to nothing. I am talking like once every 2-3weeks! (She still swallowing birth control though) Lately her excuse is her bro being around. She's also chatting a lot to her 'dad' on what's up app before she never used to as they kind of fell out because of me not working. When I starting working I thought things would go back to how we were but I would come home to a lovely dinner then straight after she's tired and wants to go to bed! I would work 10 to10 in sales and she goes to uni 3 times a week. Once I pushed for shag and she didn't want to but I insisted, normally she's tight but she seemed loose. I confronted her about it she said she was really turned on. She's also got really rude, like she doesn't care anymore, can't help feel like she's pushing me away as if she doesn't want to dump me because she feels sorry for me.

What's sad about this is no matter what I do, she's always pissed off and it seems like she uses her bro to piss me off so I can argue with him which in turn feeds her hatred for me even more! Every time we watch a movie, they fall asleep at the beginning, everything I say is like rubbish to them. I hate my life! Bear in mind she's a real sweetheart and I love her to death, can't bear the thought of losing her. (she has hinted when we argue that she's perfect for me but am not for her, before she always had her hands on me) but my instinct tells me she got someone on the side and her bro is in on it.

[joypulv]

We aren't psychic. Any time someone asks 'Is he/she cheating on me?' which total strangers can't possibly know, I see all sorts of indications that there is no mature communication between the two of them. You couldn't even talk about the very concrete issue of different hours you slept? Just because you came home at 10 and she had a 'lovely dinner' waiting for you and was then tired, doesn't give you reason to complain! Maybe SHE had to go to class the next morning. Maybe she's just not a late night person. I went through all that with my ex.

Nothing you have said is an indicator that she is cheating. All I see is someone who is losing the feelings for you that she had before.

I find some of your words insensitive, pushing for shag, she's too loose, good grief, if you think that's proof of anything, you have a lot to learn about trust and not suspecting every little thing.

[tickle]

You are really too much you know. 'Pushing for shag'. Does 'making love' ring a bell?

[Fr_Chuck]

First if you treat her like you write she should have left long time ago,

Next after year couples are not rabbits and a few times week is more real life