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rich26 · Dec 20, 2012, 10:48 AM

Hey guys,

I've been in love with this girl for almost 5 years now! Its always been one sided and she just want be friends but I can't see her in that way. I've lost interest in my life or everything that mattered to me ever since she started dating my best friend for one and a half years! I've gone into a state of depression. I really need help. Please help me, please!

odinn7 · Dec 20, 2012, 10:51 AM

What kind of help can we possibly give you?

All we can say is that this is unhealthy for you to continue like this. She is with someone. She has already told you friends only. You can't make her feel the same way about you.

You need to forget about her and find someone else... stop wasting your time and life waiting around and hoping that one day she will suddenly realize you are the one for her.

rich26 · Dec 20, 2012, 10:54 AM

But how do I forget her I've been trying to but I just can't seem to do it :(

odinn7 · Dec 20, 2012, 10:55 AM

Do things, keep your mind busy. There's no magic answer.

rich26 · Dec 20, 2012, 10:57 AM

Everything I do sumhow it gets me thinking of her :/
Should I stop talking to her or something? She considers me as her best friend...

odinn7 · Dec 20, 2012, 10:59 AM

I can't tell you that. You need to decide that on your own. All I can say is that if you keep remaining close to her, you are just going to make things hard on yourself.

Wondergirl · Dec 20, 2012, 11:02 AM

You are going to have to make a break from her. There doesn't seem to be any other way to do this. Will the two of you eventually be separated by distance for school or life in general?

rich26 · Dec 20, 2012, 11:20 AM

Yes in 3 months we are going to 2 different states for college :/

Thanks for your advice odinn :)

Wondergirl · Dec 20, 2012, 11:31 AM

Originally Posted by rich26

yes in 3 months we are goin to 2 different states for college :/

Then you will make an effort to get involved in classes and clubs, right? College is such a different world from high school, and I think you will enjoy the experience very much! I certainly did!

santosh_mahato · Dec 24, 2012, 04:28 AM

If this is one side love than the most important thing you have to do is'

'GO AND TELL HER ABOUT EVERYTHING YOU HAVE IN YOUR HEART FOR HER'

If you have already did this and she said to be just friends than its OK because its natural.
Try to be her best friend and keep her happy. And I know that you also want her to be happy.
This is the best things you can do. In the future it might be possible that she will start understand your feelings but that is optional thing.

And rest is depend on her. But you have to be open here.
Try to keep yourself busy , talk to your friends this will help you to feel better.

Fr_Chuck · Dec 24, 2012, 04:50 AM

She has been clear, you need to stop contact and start over, date other people.

You are obsessed at this point and time, and it is not healthy, Perhaps even professional counseling

talaniman · Dec 24, 2012, 05:25 PM

Hard forgetting someone when you try the friends thing and keep in contact with them. You should have said "ok, we can be friends" but turned your attentions to others people, places, and things until you had recovered from being dumped.

Its like you never have moved beyond her, which you haven't.

rich26 · Dec 27, 2012, 03:01 AM

Originally Posted by santosh_mahato

If this is one side love than the most important thing you have to do is'

'GO AND TELL HER ABOUT EVERYTHING YOU HAVE IN YOUR HEART FOR HER'

If you have already did this and she said to be just friends than its ok becouse its natural.
Try to be her best friend and keep her happy. And i know that you also want her to be happy.
This is the best things you can do. In the future it might be possible that she will start understand your feelings but that is optional thing.

And rest is depend on her. But you have to be open here.
Try to keep yourself busy , talk to your friends this will help you to feel better.

Yeah I have already it! Its been 5 years since I did and she still wants to be friends! :/

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

She has been clear, you need to stop contact and start over, date other people.

you are obsessed at this point and time, and it is not healthy, Perhaps even professional counseling

Its not like I hvnt tried othr people but whenevr I'm with sum1else I cnt stop thinking about her :/