[kentaru02]

Hi I am 24 and I'm the gay one, my boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and six months now. We met under very weird circumstances. He is very very attractive and was a really lady's man and could get any girl he wanted and me any guy. And he was down and out, I as well. And we met I wanted to honestly just use him for his body and he wanted to use me for a place to stay. Well then it all took a twist and we fell in love with each other. We stayed together for about 6 months before this happened we have a good sex life and all and we do love each other a lot but he really misses women and the sex and the feeling he has with them.

He says he is completely straight and he does not look at any other men which is true he actually hates other gay guys but he is with me which is on so many levels does not make sense to me at all. We talk a lot about this and he is still very young and immature but when it comes to talking about feelings he is really deep and when we sleep or just lie and watch TV. He holds me but not the kind of holding you can fake he really does love me I can feel it in everything he does.

The only problem is the girls can't leave him alone and he always says how he misses them and how he misses being with them then he tells me he loves me. This is very confusing for me to understand. Is it selfish of me to hold onto him? I can type 30 million words here and it won't describe our relationship. Trust me it gets weirder but I just want to know from any outsiders opinion does this sound like it can work or we both holding onto a dead end street. I am so confused and don't know what to do anymore. - don't want him to turn around one day and tell me I took the best years of his life or some like that.

[odinn7]

First, I don't care what you or he says... he is not straight by any stretch of the imagination. Just because he claims that he isn't attracted to other guys doesn't mean anything. He's with you and having sex with you... he is not straight.

As for your question... sounds like it is not going to work. It sounds to me like there are going to be problems down the road for you.

[kentaru02]

First, I don't care what you or he says...he is not straight by any stretch of the imagination. Just because he claims that he isn't attracted to other guys doesn't mean anything. He's with you and having sex with you...he is not straight.

As for your question....sounds like it is not going to work. It sounds to me like there are going to be problems down the road for you.

Thanks for the reply we are already having problems he keeps telling me I can trust him and that nothing will ever happen he loves me and only me but I just can't seem to believe this its dam hard and I had the same thoughts about the straight thing no straight man will do the things we but we don't always have sex he sometimes watches straight porn just to get going so its weierd like I said we will chat for days if I have to say everything but ja its really messing me up because I don't know which way to go anymore? I really really do love him with all that's in me.

[talaniman]

I don't think he is straight or why he makes a big deal of his thing for woman. Bi and secretly gay may be his issue but for you and your insecurity let me say there are never any guarantees in a relationship. Especially one that appears to be built around sex and secrets.

Only time can tell if this grows into something long term. Just from your young ages though, its not that likely, but you never know where exploring and experimenting will lead. Enjoy the time without all this emotional pressure on yourself, and take one day at a time.

[Fr_Chuck]

Sorry, he is already lying to you, and/or his self,
A straight person is not going to have sex with another man, period, that is what straight means. He is gay or bi, most likely bi.