[npaaya]

I am married about seven months ago. We have tenants in our house and live like a family. I was having bad feeling about my husband and our tenant’s daughter. So I approached him and told him how I feel and he swore not to have anything doing with her. Last two months I confirmed that my husband was seeing her. I approached him and he accepted and asked for forgiveness.

I have forgiven him but my problem is that I took the girl like my sister and now she doesn't greet me and sometimes blorf at me. Am worried because I don’t like the way things are going but am afraid they are still seeing one another. I wanted to make peace with the girl so that I will be happy again because I don’t like the way we are living. Please help me.

[tickle]

I don't know why you would 'live like family' if they are tenants; then they don't have their own separate living quarters? If not bad mistake on your part. If this is becoming a problem in your married life, then I would give them notice to move out. This is not a good arrangement.

[npaaya]

I dont know why you would 'live like family' if they are tenants; then they dont have their own separate living quarters? If not bad mistake on your part. If this is becoming a problem in your married life, then I would give them notice to move out. This is not a good arrangement.

We both live in separate living quarters. If my husband is still seeing her do you think he will agree with me for them to leave the house?

[odinn7]

I think if he's still seeing her, you should ask all of them, including him, to leave.

Though I have to ask, why is this posted under Islam? >moved to Marriage<

[talaniman]

This is something you must talk over with your husband to confirm or reasure the accuracy of your feelings and to see if he is agreeable to the changes you want to make as far as your tenents go.

Its one thing to forgive, quite another to be living with and making nice to a female he has disrespected your marriage with. There may never be a bond like sisters between you two ever again. Not if you both cannot reconcile or amend your differences, more on her than you.

[Fr_Chuck]

Why are still there ? Why are they not gone, but you seem to just blame the girl, your hubby is at fault, he lied, he did it, and may still be doing it.

So not sure why they are not evicted and hubby kicked to the curb for now anyway.

[npaaya]

Thanks to you all. I really appreciate and will take your advices into considerations.

[Alty]

she doesn't greet me and sometimes blorf at me.

I have to ask, because it's driving me nuts. What does blorf mean?