[Mylife2626]

I'm hurting my mother said this was the right choice for me since I already have a 11 month daughter and that I didn't need anymore so now in hurting and don't know what to do

[Alty]

Are you physically in pain, is that what you mean by "hurting", or are you talking about hurting emotionally?

If it's physical then please see your doctor.

If it's emotional pain, go back to the clinic where you had the procedure done. Many times there are support groups for the women that come to that clinic. It may help to talk to other women that are going through, or have gone through, what you're facing now.

Good luck.

[Fr_Chuck]

First I am sorry for your lost, and for others reading this, no one can force you to ever have an abortion if you don't want one, if you say no to the clinic at any time, they can not do it.

So your mom threatened you with something to make you agree.

But there are many support groups for this, next what has happened is done and over, at this point make use of your time, perhaps get a job, get out away from mom to make your own choices, Where was the boyfriend during all of this

[Mylife2626]

Are you physically in pain, is that what you mean by "hurting", or are you talking about hurting emotionally?

If it's physical then please see your doctor.

If it's emotional pain, go back to the clinic where you had the procedure done. Many times there are support groups for the women that come to that clinic. It may help to talk to other women that are going through, or have gone through, what you're facing now.

Good luck.

I am emotionally drain I have a number I can call but there is nothing like talking to people who have had an abortion and what they doing to get over it... I have a job a great one, and I didn't inform him that I was going because I would have been kicked out my mother house so I did what she wanted and now I regret it

[Mylife2626]

First I am sorry for your lost, and for others reading this, no one can force you to ever have an abortion if you dont want one, if you say no to the clinic at any time, they can not do it.

So your mom threatened you with something to make you agree.

But there are many support groups for this, next what has happened is done and over, at this point make use of your time, perhaps get a job, get out away from mom to make your own choices, Where was the boyfriend during all of this

They only ask me health questions & nothing else. Not how I feel about this or anything I have a job... I just wish I can take it back

[Alty]

I'm sorry for your loss. I would urge you to call the number they provided, and also ask about support groups for this.

I'm not sure there are any long term members on this site that have gone through what you're going through, not exactly. I've had a miscarriage that was very traumatic, almost cost me my life, but that's really the only thing similar that I've experienced, and I can say that for that experience, it took time to heal, both physically and emotionally.

Good luck.

[ScottGem]

They only ask me health questions & nothing else. Not how I feel about this or anything I have a job ... I just wish I can take it back

Where was this? How old are you?

Did you sign anything? Did you read what you signed?

As noted, in the US, at least, the pregnant woman MUST assent to the procedure. So you probably signed something to give your assent. Had you not signed it they could not have done the procedure.

You say you have "a job, a great one". If so, then you should be able to afford your own home and to care for your children and not worry about being thrown out of your mother's home.

I do think I understand (as well as a male can) your feeling of loss, and I don't want to minimize it. But I think you have a greater problem. I think you are too much under the control of your mother. And I think you need counseling to build your own self-esteem and to deal with your feelings of loss. If you have a good job, you should have coverage to see a professional counselor.