[nehha11]

Its like I am in love with a guy who was unfortunately married to an extremely callous lady... and so they are partying ways. Problem is that I have two years of education to go ad my parents are not willing for the marriage which is understandable. And the other side my bf's wife is a completely insane woman... she knew her husband has an affair for more than a year yet she made no issue and nor did she try to make the marriage work... now when the question of divorce has arises... which arose from her side... she is wanting to dvorce... dont know when... but she keeps creating troubles between me and my boyfriend. Its not that she loves him or wants to stay in the marriage, she is slightly jealous beause I am young and keeps talking to me about her looks... which kind of surprises me because here her marriage is hitting rock bottom and all she cares about is her looks. But these days she is acting funny and is saying she will ruin our lives, what should my boyfriend do... shouldhe become discreet or should he let her know that he has an affair with me... recently she is saying that she doesn't care a as long as he doesn't show her. So what's the right way to handle?

[cdad]

The right way is to walk away. Otherwise your catching an early glimpse of your future. The man is married if that doesn't mean anything to either of you then that is your choice. Just please never have children with this person as they will be hurt the most.

End it now while your ahead.

[smoothy]

Depending on what country you live in... his WIFE could bring legal action against you. I assume you are legally an adult and you mean two more years of College and not high school or there is another legal problem there in many countries.

And consider you really don't know this woman... its likely you have not heard the truth about her... and certainly haven't heard her side of the story.

I don't doubt she is going to be angry at you...

Also consider this... because its true... more true than you are going to want to hear... if he is willing to fool around on his wife with you while he's married... he's almost certainly going to do this with someone else if you ever become the wife.

And this happens a very high percentage of the time...

[Oliver2011]

I am guessing the right decision was to not have an affair with a married man. But that is just a guess.

Not sure what country you are in or laws you are under, but in the US I would be guessing she would be entitled to a better divorce payday if she can prove an affair, and I think she can.

Regardless of whether they had issues in their marriage (and it takes two parties to create issues), you act like she isn't entitled to be ticked off that you two cheated on her. Wow.

[ANGIE4124]

Here you say; SHE is an extremely callous lady, is a completely insane woman, keeps creating trouble, and she will ruin our lives… I think you have it all wrong nehha11!

It's not her, but YOU who are callous, insane, creating trouble, and ruining lives, period!

Problem is; you are naïve in the lessons of life; an affair with a married man for more than a year is not considered a prized scholastic achievement! I'm sure your parents would be proud of you, when you graduate with Honours from this affair by leaving?

Meanwhile your boyfriend is not that smart either… Or maybe he is? After all he did manage to entice someone younger than his wife 'this time' and convincing lie to you that his wife did not try to make the marriage work. HA!

I would advise you to be discreet in leaving him, to not humiliate yourself any further in this conduct before you are the next wife/person that 'hits rock bottom'!

[Fr_Chuck]

Let me see, could she be callous and crazy because her husband has been having an affair with you ?