[nessa93]

So my ex and I had sex about a month ago where the condom broke (never trusting that brand again as it had no valid reason to happen) and despite him not "releasing" inside me I'm well aware of the pre-ejac. Thing potentially... not only has that happened but about a week and a half to 2 weeks later, just as I had dismissed the thought of possible 'oops' I started to get sick, bloated for the first time in my life, also I've never had stomach cramps like that before and I was nauseous... I was getting concerned.
Normally my periods consist only of leg cramps (concentrated in my knees the day before) and back/hip pain with and irritability the day before then all is right again in 5 days...
The weirder still thing was that we had sex again after I started noticing the weird symptoms and it sort of made them better... (I'm sorry for gory details really but I have no better way to explain) then we noticed the white sheets weren't so white anymore as I had bled... a lot. It was just like period blood but no clumps and it literally ended the next day.
My nausea died off a bit the following days as well... The only thing is I think my areola are a tad bigger, there's more bumps the size of a pen tip near my nipples (I'm really fair skinned and don't usually pay attention to my breasts as their only an A so I don't know about colour but they're sort of tan looking) and I've noticed Ive been moody still, tired all the time but I cannot for the life of me sleep proper at night as I'm up all the time or I don't pass out till 4-5 am and now my legs and hips are killer again but all I seem to notice is more white mucus and I feel like there's a slight odour...
I ask as I haven't felt sick really since the bleeding, was exercising when I felt okay (I haven't in a week due to exhaustion as said and now if I'm pregnant I don't want to over do things) and I've been having moments where I won't eat much due to disinterest then I'm starved and want specific things. Also my um BM are acting the same as pre-period but that's been going on all week and no period!
Worst part is my periods when off because are really sporadic... I haven't had one in 3 or 4 months and I wasn't sexually active again until a month and a half ago and that's normal for me but it makes this guessing game waaay harder.. . I'm 19, done high school and the plan was to take a similar route my ex did and go army this summer as I've wanted to forever now... so I'm always responsible about these things (I always use protection in other-words) I just am in a rough patch can't afford my because yet and nor can I afford the test right now... do you think I could just be sick or something?
I don't know what to do... all I do know is I can't keep it if I am pregnant. On the same hand I don't want to do abortion (learning how its done... made me a little squeamish and I'd rather my mistake have the potential to be someone else's gift if not my own... ) and I don't know how to go about adoption and I especially don't know how to tell Mum if I am... she had me at the same age so I was taught better... I feel guilty and really worried... any advice would be greatly appreciated!

[Alty]

Is there a planned parenthood near you?

If so, they can do a pregnancy test for free.

Let's take that step first and then go from there. Okay? :)

[nessa93]

Is there a planned parenthood near you?

If so, they can do a pregnancy test for free.

Let's take that step first and then go from there. Okay? :)

Where I live we don't have that :/ My only option is the hospital whereas that would be free (standard cdn medicare and all) but I don't know if I have just cause... You think I do?

[Alty]

Where I live we don't have that :/ My only option is the hospital whereas that would be free (standard cdn medicare and all) but I don't know if I have just cause...You think I do?

Cdn? Canadian? Well, that's something I can work with. I'm in Canada too.

Do you have a family doctor? They can order a blood test, or urine test in their office.

You do have just cause. That's not saying that I think you're pregnant, but there is a possibility and it's something I would have checked out.

See your family doctor, or go to a walk in clinic, either one will get a pregnancy test done for you. The hospital really isn't the place to do this. They're too busy to do pregnancy tests.

Let me know how it works out. :)

[nessa93]

cdn? Canadian? Well, that's something I can work with. I'm in Canada too.

Do you have a family doctor? They can order a blood test, or urine test in their office.

You do have just cause. That's not saying that I think you're pregnant, but there is a possibility and it's something I would have checked out.

See your family doctor, or go to a walk in clinic, either one will get a pregnancy test done for you. The hospital really isn't the place to do this. They're too busy to do pregnancy tests.

Let me know how it works out. :)

Thanks, I will go to a walk in/ after hours clinic if they do it here... My family doctor is like a 20 minute drive away (basically its in a village that falls under my city's county) and what with winter sometimes its hard to get in. And worst case scenario I go to the smaller hospital here that does a clinic sort of thing... hard to explain but its like an ermgency room but they don't do trauma or anything that turns out life threatening so to speak. Im at least glad to know someone else would get a test too... Thank you for your input :)

[Alty]

Thanks, I will go to a walk in/ after hours clinic if they do it here ...My family doctor is like a 20 minute drive away (basically its in a village that falls under my city's county) and what with winter sometimes its hard to get in. And worst case scenario I go to the smaller hospital here that does a clinic sort of thing...hard to explain but its like an ermgency room but they dont do trauma or anything that turns out life threatening so to speak. Im at least glad to know someone else would get a test too...Thank you for your input :)

Okay, the more you say, the more I'm beginning to think we live in the same town/hamlet.

[nessa93]

Okay, the more you say, the more I'm beginning to think we live in the same town/hamlet.

Wouldn't that be quite a coincidence haha Are you in NB then?

[Alty]

Wouldn't that be quite a coincidence haha Are you in NB then?

Sigh.

No.

I thought I was onto something here. I'm in Alberta. :)

That would have been a huge coincidence though. I was ready to buy a lottery ticket, because the chances of meeting someone from your town on this site, well, the odds are lower than winning the lottery. :)

[Wondergirl]

That would have been a huge coincidence though. I was ready to buy a lottery ticket, because the chances of meeting someone from your town on this site, well, the odds are lower than winning the lottery. :)

I can see Stringer's house from my back porch. Several others on here are within easy driving distance from me. I could be at Synn's in time to help her put the baby to bed. Should I buy a lottery ticket?

[Alty]

I can see Stringer's house from my back porch. Several others on here are within easy driving distance from me. I could be at Synn's in time to help her put the baby to bed. Should I buy a lottery ticket?

Yes! Buy one! But if you win, you have to share, since I'm the one that suggested it.

Now, let's stop before we hijack this thread. We both know we're capable. ;)

[nessa93]

Sigh.

No.

I thought I was onto something here. I'm in Alberta. :)

That would have been a huge coincidence though. I was ready to buy a lottery ticket, because the chances of meeting someone from your town on this site, well, the odds are lower than winning the lottery. :)

Lol well darn... Very good point though lol I'll post if it comes back pos or negative though when I get the result... I have to wait till monday; tomorrow there are no buses and so Monday I can call and get in. You've actually put my mind at least a little bit at ease that Im not entirely insane lol Hopefully Im just having an off month :/ But I guess if it is pos. I'll just have to do what seems right.

[Alty]

lol well darn...Very good point though lol I'll post if it comes back pos or neg though when I get the result...I have to wait till monday; tomorrow there are no buses and so monday I can call and get in. You've actually put my mind at least a little bit at ease that Im not entirely insane lol Hopefully Im just having an off month :/ But I guess if it is pos. I'll just have to do what seems right.

I'll cross my fingers that it comes back negative. But, if it doesn't, we'll all be here to help you through the next steps, no matter what you decide to do.

I look forward to hearing from you when the results are in. Until then, why not stick around, look at some of the questions being posted, and see if you can answer any of them. Everyone that volunteers on this site started just like you, coming here with a question and then sticking around to pay it forward.

You write very well, you're obviously intelligent, and frankly, we could use more people like you on this site. So give it some thought. It may help get your mind off all of this. :)

[nessa93]

I'll cross my fingers that it comes back negative. But, if it doesn't, we'll all be here to help you through the next steps, no matter what you decide to do.

I look forward to hearing from you when the results are in. Until then, why not stick around, look at some of the questions being posted, and see if you can answer any of them. Everyone that volunteers on this site started just like you, coming here with a question and then sticking around to pay it forward.

You write very well, you're obviously intelligent, and frankly, we could use more people like you on this site. So give it some thought. It may help get your mind off all of this. :)

Thank you for the support and for the compliment! :) I do enjoy writing and hey, if I can help someone else, why not? I may just have to take you up on that idea! :D