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    Dec 2, 2012, 12:38 AM
    Long distance relationship
    He said he doesn't want to let go but he has to cause I been hurting him too much. What do I do?
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    Dec 2, 2012, 12:39 AM
    Stop hurting him.
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    Dec 2, 2012, 12:41 AM
    How do I do that? He gets so jealous even when my guy friends tweet at me and I reply then. I want him so bad but I don't know how to prove to him.:( please help it's a long distance relationship.
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    Dec 2, 2012, 12:44 AM
    How does he know about your guy friends tweeting?
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    Dec 2, 2012, 12:45 AM
    He's on twitter too. I mean they are my friends am I just suppose to ignore them because he gets jealous? I feel it's not right.
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    Dec 2, 2012, 12:47 AM
    Do you flirt or just have fun? Is your boyfriend jealous for a good reason?
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    Dec 2, 2012, 12:51 AM
    I don't flirt on any websit. With any one my guy friends. He has my password to twitter which with that at least he knows I have nothing to hide. Well I did tell him a couple of weeks back I was drunk and slept over at a guy friend's place since then he's been so insure. But I want him so bad. He feels he's wasted his time blah blah.
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    Dec 2, 2012, 01:04 AM
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    Well I did tell him a couple of weeks back I was drunk and slept over at a guy friend's place since then he's been so insure.
    Now I'm unsure of your faithfulness and feel like I am wasting my time responding to you.

    Obviously, you know what to do and how to behave. Twitter isn't the problem at all. Getting drunk and "sleeping over" is -- and definitely not how to encourage trust in a boyfriend!
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    Dec 2, 2012, 01:08 AM
    I know it isn't. I made a mistake and I'm trying to change that. I did hurt him and no one Is prefect I want to fix things:( please help me. P.s he says I need to prove to him if I really care about him and I want to be with him but what could I possibly do to prove to him?
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    Dec 2, 2012, 01:13 AM
    You prove you are trustworthy by BEING trustworthy. No parties and getting drunk. No kissing and flirting with other guys (so they laugh about it on Twitter). Study hard in school and do your chores at home. You don't have to be a nun, but you do have to avoid the appearance of unfaithfulness. And I know you know what I mean.

    If that cuts into your idea of fun, then you should not be in this relationship. You are too immature to be in one if you want to flirt and kiss and get drunk and sleep over.
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    Dec 2, 2012, 01:13 AM
    Early this week I wrote him 27 messages about how much I still wanted him. He read and ignored me I still tried to talk to him. I finally succeeded. I was at a friends birthday party everyone was partying and I got carried away. That was just it.
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    Dec 2, 2012, 01:16 AM
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    Early this week I wrote him 27 messages about how much I still wanted him. He read and ignored me I still tried to talk to him. I finally succeeded. I was at a friends bday party everyone was partying and I got carried away. That was just it.
    Twenty-seven messages is so over the top, so immature and so needy. Stop that kind of communication. Words mean nothing if behavior is immature and slutty.

    Drink Coke or Pepsi or Seven-Up. Do not drink alcohol.
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    Dec 2, 2012, 01:18 AM
    Lol thanks I actually thought this whole thing was suppose to make someone feel better not worse. Thanks anyway. U barely even know me and yet you call someone slutty *high five*
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    Dec 2, 2012, 01:22 AM
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    Lol thanks I actually thought this whole thing was suppose to make someone feel better not worse. Thanks anyway. U barely even know me and yet you call someone slutty *high five*
    Well, then tell me that you have been faithful and trustworthy. Drinking so that you get so drunk and then sleeping over leaves all sorts of ideas in one's imagination.

    And if he were doing this behind your back without you there -- going to parties, getting drunk, touching and kissing girls, laughing about it on Twitter -- how would you feel?

    I haven't gotten any bad ideas in my head that you haven't put there. He's gotten the same ideas from your behavior.
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    Dec 2, 2012, 01:25 AM
    I know. But please I'm just asking would I ever get him back.. If you were in my shoes what would you do?

    I never flirted or kissed anyone. FYI. Do you think he would ever have known if I never told him? Think about that. And if I wasn't been honest would I even have mentioned I messed up to him. I may have been the bad person but I'm hardly the bad one. I just need advice I want to keep him.

    Are you a Leo lady?
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    Dec 2, 2012, 01:32 AM
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    I know. But please I m just asking would I ever get him back.. If you were in my shoes what would you do?
    First, I would stop acting so needy with frequent emails, texts, calls, etc. about how much you love him. Prove it by not getting drunk and not being every guy's buddy and flirt friend. In fact, get off Twitter and stay off. When you text or email your boyfriend, talk about school classes and texts and teachers and silly things that happened during your day with the family dog or hamster or cat. Tell him what you ate that day and how good the pizza was. Stay away from talking about guys and parties and alcohol. Do fun things with him. Write a story together, with you doing one sentence and then he adds a sentence. Talk about books you are reading (you ARE reading books, right?). Be normal, not Miss Chatty Cathy.

    Quote Originally Posted by Nab28 View Post
    I never flirted or kissed anyone. FYI. Do you think he would ever have known if I never told him? Think bout that. And if I wasn't been honest would I even have mentioned I messed up to him. I may have been the bad person but I m hardly the bad one. I just need advice i want to keep him.
    Why would you tell him if you did. You have whetted my imagination, and I'm sure he is suspicious too.

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    Are you a Leo lady?
    I am Scorpio, full of fire and passion -- and truth and justice and integrity.
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    Dec 2, 2012, 01:34 AM
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    Why would you tell him if you did. You have whetted my imagination, and I'm sure he is suspicious too.
    so you are saying I should never have been truthful to him?:o
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    Dec 2, 2012, 01:35 AM
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    so you are saying I should never have been truthful to him?:o
    No, I am saying you should never have put yourself in that position in the first place.
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    Dec 2, 2012, 01:36 AM
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    I am Scorpio, full of fire and passion -- and truth and justice and integrity.
    Oh wow! U did sounded like a Leo but Scorpio isn't a fire sign ?

    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    No, I am saying you should never have put yourself in that position in the first place.
    You never messed up miss? Like ever?
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    Dec 2, 2012, 01:38 AM
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    You never messed up miss? Like ever?
    Nope. I have never gotten drunk at a party nor have I cheated on a boyfriend or acted untrustworthy. When I had a boyfriend, he was the center of my world and I behaved myself.

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