[Nea12]

Ok, so I think you should know the story behind this...

I met this guy in March - we randomly exchanged #'s - no hook up or anything... Not even sure why we exchanged #'s...
For some reason we kept texting each other... At first, the basics - "hey" "how are you" etc... we said we should meet up at some point... This was from like April - June - then I went to Europe for much of the summer - so we lost contact... When I got back the texts started up again but this time we really both tried to meet up but for one reason or another it didn't happen... However, we started randomly opening up to each other about stuff going on in our lives... Which was kind of strange - I didn't remember what he looked like or why we talking to begin with...

Moving forward, we FINALLY met up one night and I think we were both stunned initially... At first glance neither of us was each other's "ideal" person... But we went with it - played pool and had couple of drinks - and when we started talking it was like I knew him for years... We hung out and just talked all night - just a kiss at the end... That was how great it was... We totally "got" each other...

So, it's been a little over a month... We don't have serious conversations about what we have going on (but we do about other things - like I had cancer and we both were in pretty messed up marriages in the past)

... he has a lot of friends that are girls - and I have most close friends that are guys (with no history there)

He is totally up front and honest with me - for example, he was out with co-workers one night after work and "a really hot girl was hitting on him all night"... I asked him if he hooked up with her - no he didn't because "she was pretty on the outside - but not inside"

Just an example - he said he doesn't want a girlfriend in passing once - I told him he's free to do whatever he wants and with whomever he wants to... And I do honestly believe he will be upfront with me if he does... But he doesn't seem to want to at this juncture... But when someone talked to me at the bar - he'd say something like "maybe he wants to get to know you"... one time I was just talking to a guy & he made a comment about people leaving him or something... Idk - but not mad or jealous .

But he says, we are involved... Ok? What does that mean?
We see each other usually 3-4 times a week... Yes, we are sleeping together and he is a lot more experienced than I am - but I have to say it is the best sex I've ever had!

I stay over all the time - I've even stayed at his apt when he went to work a couple of times... We connect completely... I swear I think he can read my mind sometimes... Lol

He has introduced me to his friends - the girls too... And they are totally cool and awesome.. I have in the past been jealous (with good reason tho)... But I'm not jealous with him..

Neither one of us are particularly fond of public displays - but he'll hold my had or give a kiss now and then... People know we are "involved"...

We talk or text numerous times of the day... We are both having some issues in our lives we need to deal with - but who doesn't right...

So, if you are still reading - thank you!

... I think I am really starting to fall for this guy... He is somewhat unconventional - but then again so am I - to a point... What does it sound like to you guys? What's going on - what does "involved" mean?

[joypulv]

If you don't feel involved, or don't know what he means by involved, then something sort of strange is going on. It was a bit tough reading each little detail that all adds up to involved. But you are the only one who can answer your question. Why do you need to know from total strangers what HE thinks? It sounds like you two need a good two hour heart to heart - about the future, about what it all means. Love is one topic of course, but the practical topics like living together are what are behind it all. Or, if you think talking about all that will jinx what you have, wait a while.