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    Nov 26, 2012, 09:19 AM
    Girlfriend keeps talking to guys
    Me and my girlfriend have been together for 11months... and from the beginning we always had trouble with our exs try to get in the way... after about 3 months, fine stopped... after about 11 months, hers are still trying to get with her. Not 24/7 but just randomly once or twice a month... I tell her to say things to them saying back off and she doesn't. I try grabbing the phone to say stuff myself and she always takes it back...

    I read the messages so I know she isn't hiding anything, but it's the fact she won't tell them to stop.! So they keep on... a month ago I see my girlfriend write on her exs wall... why didn't u answer the phone, so everyone can see.! I became furious, I called her yelling saying "She's eventually going to start talking to people behind my back" she said she wouldn't. I didn't believe it.

    Sure enough on thanksgiving she called saying she gave her number to a friend of hers named Kevin on a day I didn't go to school. She called and asked, what do I say because he keeps asking if I have a crush on him. I was mad, I know the guy and I know I can seriously beat him up. He has friends and I have friends so it will lead to something. Then I stop and think, its not worth fighting over a girl no matter.

    So what should I do... thank you for taking the time to read this. :) I just need some serious advice
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    Nov 26, 2012, 09:27 AM
    It sounds like you are six years old.

    Now, tell me why you are so untrusting, so into checking up on her, so sure she's cheating on you. Relax and just be a fun person she enjoys being with and stop the paranoia. If you can't do that, let her go and move on.
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    Nov 26, 2012, 09:32 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    It sounds like you are six years old.

    Now, tell me why you are so untrusting, so into checking up on her, so sure she's cheating on you. Relax and just be a fun person she enjoys being with and stop the paranoia. If you can't do that, let her go and move on.
    That's the thing though... she's left me about 20 times... and left me to get with guys :(. I just held on and didn't give up. Im a whole different guy noe... I know I should have left. But now I'm so attached
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    Nov 26, 2012, 09:37 AM
    How old are you guys?
    Anytime you're in a relationship where someone has left you 20 times, that is a pretty good sign things are not working.
    Call it quits.
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    Nov 26, 2012, 09:38 AM
    Well, to save your soul and self respect, break from her and heal up from this disaster of a relationship. Do not start a new one until you are free of your demons from this relationship, or you will doom it for sure!
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    Nov 26, 2012, 10:16 AM
    First, you will be driven crazy if you keep dealing with this. Second, you are at the beginning of becoming an untrusting control freak.

    Given that she has broke it off with you 20 times for other guys, I can somewhat understand why you are acting this way. On the other hand, you should save yourself and just dump her and find someone else that you can TRUST. Find someone else and don't play the control game.
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