[andy93]

I love my girl to death and were still quite intermate, but she still insists she doesn't want to go back what am I meant to take from this?

[Jiser]

I recommend you immediately go no contact. Delete all her contact details and Facebook. Remove all reminders of her. Don't tell her your doing this. Just leave her.

Remove her from your life so you can get healthy. Being around and needy is not attractive.

Plan a lot of things! Go to the movies, go to the gym, plan your next month out. Reconnect with old friends.

[andy93]

I have been thinking this for a while, and have tried it before but it always ends up us speaking an spendin time with each other, when we are with each other everything is good. It's a really difficult situation

[Alty]

She's clearly stated to you that she doesn't want to go back to being your girlfriend. Sadly, by continuing to see you and contact you, she's sending you mixed signals.

You have the control here. Accept that what she's told you is the way she feels, and stop letting her play with your heart, giving you hope, when there is none.

Tell her that you can't be friends with her, because you care about her as more than friends. It's not fair to you for her to keep you on a string, and keep tugging it away whenever you think you've got a grip on it.

No contact. This is in your hands. Either cut her out so you can move on, or continue to let her play with your feelings. It's not a difficult choice at all, once you take control of your own life.

[andy93]

I keep thinking this, but after a week or so, she will contact me and ask to see me... We get on really well I haven't really fell out, we just aren't together, its driving me insane because she's saying she loves me the death and there is still a lot of love about when were together I just can't understand why she would want to do all this

[Alty]

I keep thinking this, but after a week or so, she will contact me and ask to see me... We get on really well I havnt really fell out, we just aren't together, its driving me insane because she's saying she loves me the death and there is still a lot of love about when were together I just can't understand why she would want to do all this

Has she found someone else? To me it sounds like she's keeping your around, just in case she can't find something better (not that you're not great, but obviously for her it didn't work out. There's someone better for you too).

The fact is, you want to be with her, she doesn't. She may say all the right things when you two are together, but she's not putting her money where her mouth is. Doesn't that tell you something? If she really loves you as much as you say she does, why isn't she your girlfriend?

She's not allowing you to move on, for her own selfish reasons. It's confusing you. Why are you allowing her to do it? You do have a choice, this is your life.

As long as you allow her to play her, you're not getting over her, and you're not giving yourself a chance to meet someone that's better for you, and trust me, there's someone out there.

Your choice. Personally, no matter how much it hurts to admit that the one you want doesn't want you back, I'd rather feel the pain than be their puppet.

[andy93]

No there's no one else, I don't know what's going through her head... Its like she just doesn't know what she want, at the moment I'm trying to go cold turkey and not speak with her, but as you know its easier said than done... I feel like abit of space may do us both good,to be honest, it might give her abit of time to think, although she says she's changed her mind.. P.S thanks for the support!!

[andy93]

Made her mind *