[MPHOMAH]

A few weeks back I discovered that my girlfriend is cheating on me.. I only told her that I know she's been lying to me and communicating with this guy behind my back and she did what woman do "im soory","honestly his fun chating with but ive niver met the guy since we dated","do u think i cheated on you","you knw i wudnt do that", while crying... but for me I knew she was going to lie and defend herself what I wanted was to alet her that I know and she sud stop. Because I was not ready for the truth and to let her go. But just recently I discovered that she is still cheating thou I havint confronted her about it.. I don't really know what to do and how to as k her and get the truth without her lying to me again. Because I know she will again defend herself. What I don't really get is why she's doing it because just recently I found out that her mom and sisters know that we are dating and she never tells her mom bt the sisters an d now it's the mom knowing too

[joypulv]

We can't tell you to break up with her, or to trust her that it's 'just fun' as she says, or how right or wrong 'just fun' is. This is a decision you have to make. We can't even tell if she is just texting him or seeing him too, right? You don't even know. You have to sit down with yourself and ask yourself what you want and what you believe, and make a decision.

In general, if you can't talk something out, and you can't handle whatever it is, then break up. Accusing someone isn't going to help.

[SweetPea95]

Okay... I know I sound low when I say this but I did cheat on a guy once, that was because I never got to see him and we didn't do anything. She might be losing interest of you I'm sorry to say :( but usually when someone is acting like she is... they are cheating. If you aren't happy... I would leave. But love is hard I understand. First get back in the grove, do things that she really likes. Bring back members and take her to the movies, give her flowers. Just don't over do it. Try something like that then get back to me. I might be able to help more

[MPHOMAH]

There's mike who was a friend whom she always talked about saying she used to go to his girlfriend with. And there's tshepo whom when I asked who he was at the tym we started dating she said he was a friend. I left it that because I trusted her and this was 7 months ago when we started dating. It was on a Friday cumin back from work and I could c she was out and asked where she went, initialy she brushed it off and an hour later I asked again. She said to me she went to the bank and from her way back she bumped into mike and even took his cellphone purse and came back with it for her own use. We fought about her bringing stuff from ada men. The next day I went with her to the salon to do her nails and while there I checked her bbm.

It turns out that: there's no mike bt tshepo and soon as I left the flat for work on Friday they started chating as eli as 7h00.
He asked her to come over to his place and she agreed bt said she has to go to the bank first and he offered to tyk her there which she agreed.
He said she sud come so they can and all she said was do you see my written your name on it and he was she knows that it belongs to him in ani case.
Obviously the arranged the meeting not bump into each ada.

I ddnt say anything for a week den after confronted her about it. Her response was she did not meet the guy and has never met the guy since we started dating and his an ex and not a friend as I had known. And that she bumped into mike.

At the tym for me I couldn't stand the truth so I ddnt really push on it. Bt I know there's no mike bt tshepo because only mike calls her "skaty" and no 1 else bt on bbm tshepo called her "skaty" and mike had a car bt tshepo ddnt. Wel tshepo offered to tyk her to the bank wth his car.

[MPHOMAH]

He asked her to come over so they can mate and her response was do you c your name written on my v.. g.. a

[odinn7]

If she's cheating and you know for sure that she is, you only have 2 possible solutions. You either put up with it or you leave her. There is no magical solution we can give you. You need to decide this on your own.

[SweetPea95]

Well... doesn't sound she faithful, I think your gut feeling is right. I say give her another month to straight her act. If you don't do something all you will be doing is living with a broken heart. :( and no one wants that for anyone.

[J_9]

Please type in complete words and sentences. The site requires this because not all member text and texting abbreviations can be hard to read.

[joypulv]

Why do you just keep telling stories about who said or did what?
It isn't going to change the advice.
YOU have to decide.
(And I won't try to read text-talk either.)