[RCHY]

I have married my husband 2.5 years back and have been dealing with his obsession with his mother and sister ever since. He is a wonderful man but has an anger issue and disrespects my parents every chance he gets. His mother and him wanted me to get out of the house and I have been living separate with him for the last one month. I have asked him to take me back but he says he needs more time. He doesn't call or do anything pro active to take me home. I have no one close to rely in the place where I live in. This has been a very painful experience for me both mentally and physically.My parents have suggested that I get a divorce and go back to them. He wants my entire family to apologize to him in order for him to take me home which at this point is not possible. What should be the correct decision for me? I feel my husband lacks in emotion for me and I am struggling to make my broken heart understand that. What is the correct decision for me according to Islam.

[dontknownuthin]

Your husband and his family sound like childish, controlling jerks. Your family sounds willing to accept a divorce as a reasonable solution to the problem and your husband has already terminated the relationship by throwing you out of the house. While I do not practice Islam, I believe it is pretty common to all major world religions that when a man marries a woman, he leaves his family to start anew with his wife. While he does not abandon responsibility to his parents, his first responsibility is to his wife, and if he has any, his children. He has reniged on this obligation completely.

I see no point in staying with a man who does not have any respect or consideration for you, your wellfare, your feelings or your family. Go home to your family, take some time to heal from this experience, and when you are ready, consider remarrying someone else.

[Homegirl 50]

I don't know about the Islam thing, but I would divorce him. This sounds like control.