[Basketball girl]

Ok so this guy and I are getting serious and I've never dated before and he is pushing me to fast how do I tell him to where he will understand and not get mad and leave me?

[odinn7]

You are young, I assume.

Let me explain something to you... if you feel he is moving too fast, you tell him... in your words. You tell him and don't worry about what he may think. If he can't respect what you have to say about this, then he is not the one you want to be with. If he is truly a good guy, and cares about you, he will understand when you tell him and he will deal with it.

If he doesn't deal with it... if he gets mad... if he says he's going to break up with you... then he is only using you and doesn't care as much as you think he does. You don't need that. You don't need someone like that. There will be plenty of other guys in your life. Plenty that will respect you and your wishes.


EDIT- Is this the same guy from your earlier post?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...uy-713520.html
If so, then you are wasting your time with him. He sounds like a jerk.

[Basketball girl]

You are young, I assume.

Let me explain something to you....if you feel he is moving too fast, you tell him...in your words. You tell him and don't worry about what he may think. If he can't respect what you have to say about this, then he is not the one you want to be with. If he is truly a good guy, and cares about you, he will understand when you tell him and he will deal with it.

If he doesn't deal with it.....if he gets mad....if he says he's going to break up with you....then he is only using you and doesn't care as much as you think he does. You don't need that. You don't need someone like that. There will be plenty of other guys in your life. Plenty that will respect you and your wishes.

I'm 16:P

[dontknownuthin]

You have to be an equal in the relationship, which means you be yourself and say what you truly feel, let him know what you want. If things are going too fast, you need to be the one to slow them down. No guy will be shocked that a girl wants to take things slower than he does, especially physically. The way it usually works is that guys go for all they can get, and girls put on the brakes at where they are comfortable and ready to go with all that. If he cares for you and is not using you, he will respect the boundaries you set. If he is not respectful of your boundaries, he's interested in you for the wrong reasons. Isn't it better to find that out?