[blondegirl22]

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My boyfriend and I had dated for 2.5 years, broke up and then started seeing each other again. We were acting like we had never even broken up. It has now been almost 3 years in total of us being together. We started fighting again, so we decided that we should take a month apart and give it a last chance. See how the month went and if we still wanted to be together we would be. We slept together as a "last time for the month". I was thinking we would see each other and be together in a month. Less then 24 hours later, he is with another girl. He is now dating her, and is telling me he hates me and that we haven't been together since half a year ago. He tells me he lied about the month so that I would sleep with him. I feel so used, and like he no longer cares how I feel or respects me. I cannot believe it, but I still love him and want to be with him. Is there anything I can do to get him back? Or do you think I should just move on? I do truly love his personality, I just can't believe he would do something like this.

[odinn7]

Really? After that ridiculous display of disrespect for you and the lying and all but you still want to know how to get back with him?

Come on. Pick yourself up and walk away from this. You will find someone better, just give it time.

[blondegirl22]

Thanks odinn7, I guess I am still in shock. I assumed we would give it one last try, and then to find this out. It just happened a few days ago. Think I am trying to wrap my head around it still. It seems surreal

[odinn7]

Face it, he's a loser. In time you will look back on this and wonder why you put up with him. You will be OK, trust me.

[blondegirl22]

How should I deal with this?

[odinn7]

Spend time with friends and family. Just make sure you're doing things to keep yourself occupied. Remember the crap he pulled on you rather than the good times you might have had. It will get easier as time goes by.

[blondegirl22]

The next day, less than 24 hours after we decided to wait a month he is with another girl. They are about to start dating. But I know he is not telling her the whole truth here. He says he told her we broke up months ago. Should I tell her the truth? I have never talked to her before, but I think if I were in her position I would want to know. Or does that make me seem crazy? He said if I tell her he will just lie to her and say that I'm crazy and lying. What should I do?

[LostJazzy]

Don't tell her. Matter of a fact, you start dating as well, it doesn't have to be anything serious or even intimate but just get yourself busy with other people. I know it's hard to do , but try to act as casual as you can. If he see's you don't care and that you are moving on, he might man up and do the right thing. If he doesn't, it really shows you what kind of guy he is and you'll realise he doesn't even deserve you. Us girls, we get too dumb over girls, so do us proud and keep your head up.

[Jwr5885]

Don't tell her because that will make you look bad and push him away even more. The best way to approach the situation in my option would be to let him do his thing and act like his actions don't phase you because this could be a petty attempt to get you jealous. But if he is serious about the other girl then maybe you two weren't meant to be. But it's been my experience that rebounds rarely ever work out its almost like playing the lottery. So it probably won't work out with her and if you act like what he's doing doesn't phase you then you have the upper hand and can decide if he's the person you truly want to be with when the rebound doesn't work out and he wants to get back with you. Well I hope this helps and I wish you luck.

[joypulv]

STAY OUT OF IT. You are doing no one any good by meddling. When you break up with someone, that's the end of it. Your motives aren't all warm and fuzzy for her anyway (I'll bet); you are more interested in discrediting him, getting revenge, making him out to be a liar, and maybe even ruining their relationship.
I know this is easy for me to say, and when my marriage broke up after many years, I meddled. So I am sympathetic, but it doesn't mean I wasn't wrong, and the whole idea is just poisoning your own mind as well as hers. (Who cares about him, right?)

[blondegirl22]

My ex and I were dating for 3 years. We broke up last month, and he started seeing someone the next day. A week or two later he told me that they were better as friends, and he missed me; so I came over and we slept together. The next day he said he wanted to still be with the other girl. I got mad, and told her we had slept together, and they stopped seeing each other. My ex was really mad at me for doing that, and told me he hated me, wished I died, never wanted to see me again, and said if I died he would not care. The next day he called me drunk, and asked me to come over. I told him no, and that I was upset he said those terrible things the day before. The next day I tried calling him and again he repeated that he hated me, wished I died, never wanted to see me again. What should I do, am I supposed to apologise for telling the girl? Am I in the wrong here? Should I just ignore the entire situation? He is not answering my calls or texts now. I amreally hurt that he would say such terrible things.

[talaniman]

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What do you really expect from a guy who has lied, cheated, and degraded you before?Yes you are wrong for meddling with his new girl, and talking to his drunk a$$.

Leave him alone finally and do better by being better. What is this high school?

[joypulv]

You are both wrong. Is he more wrong? Yes, from what you say anyway. But you are both like two sharks cannibalizing each other. You can't be hurt by what he said. You asked for it.