[Handie]

I have been with me boyfriend for 5 years now and he keeps asking me to talk dirty. But I'm not very good at it. Every time I do talk dirty he wants it dirtier the next time. Can any one give me some ideas?

[talaniman]

After 5 years you would expect your boyfriend to have taught you how and what he wants. Ask him.

[Handie]

He has told me what he wants but I have tried to do it as he wants but it's not dirty enuf.

[J_9]

Communication is key in any relationship. If you aren't doing what he wants he has to communicate that to you. We can't tell you what he wants to hear. Only he can.

[Wondergirl]

You can't just say words. You have to make pauses and moans and gulps and sighs and giggles and gasps -- really get into it, really emote like you are so into it and enjoying yourself and totally involved (to the point that you WILL be). There are probably YouTube videos that do this and give you examples, but I'm not going to look for them. That's your job.

OR role play with him in person, try it out, and then do it over the phone. Those 900 numbers for sex talk are too often fat older women wearing curlers in their hair and sitting in rocking chairs, but they know how to perform verbally. The guys who call them think they are hot young things panting with passion and dressed in skimpy clothing that they say they are removing piece by piece -- the women play to that image. It's an illusion, a trick of the imagination, an Oscar performance kind of thing, like Meg Ryan's fake orgasm in the restaurant in "When Harry Met Sally."