[ToxicValve]

Hi, I'm a 17 year old guy who loves someone that has a boyfriend. It's been 3 years since I've met this lovely girl at school. At first I thought that she was kind of OK physically because you know that every guy puts too much attention into how someone looks, but when I started to know her, I immediately knew that I loved her. She has this amazing humor that gets every guy to laugh. For a guy, being with her is like being with a really good buddy, only you have serious feelings for this one. Sadly she has been dating this guy for 2 years now and I know, 2 years is ridiculous for our age and I fall in love with just that girl. "2 years must mean that they really love each other very much, right? so just get over it idiot, they'll never end their relationship while you're still alive" I've said that sentence to myself for 3 years and I still can't get over her... I've had some crushes in my life and every time, after a relationship or not, I got over it just by thinking "there are lots and lots of other girls..". But I have never had this unique feeling for this particular girl in my life. She's so special and I'll explain to you why. Every guy that is approaching a girl knows that she has a limit to what you can say to her. An obvious example is "hi, how are you?" this is fine but "hey nice boobs girl!" is absolutely over the top because you have passed her limit of what you can say to her. This girl has no limit because of our friendship or I just haven't seen it yet. We've been so good friends that I can just walk up to her and say anything, like "You know that i actually love you, don't you?". She'll be like: "yes i know.". All I want to say by this is that if a guy in my position would say that to his crush, he would immediately be rejected by her, and he would cry over it but then move on. I can't do that. By the way she knows that I have feelings for her and she doesn't mind. She just loves her boyfriend and having any physical contact with me makes her feel like she's cheating on him, I've respected that rule, for the last 3 years. So what DO I do?

[jaymc12]

I think you just seriously need to try and move on man I was kind of in the same position as you and its just like a wild goose chase in your head because you might be thinking what if she breaks up with him I might be able to get with her. More then likely this won't happen Because she would more than likely be upset and not won't another relationship. I know you might love her but she maybe will never love you so you just got to try move on bro.. Lifes a biatch !

[Alty]

You leave her alone. If you can't respect her enough to respect that she's in a relationship than the love you think you feel is one sided. When you truly love someone you think about them first, not only about you. Think about that.

She may know how you feel, and she may not mind, but she doesn't feel the same way. If she felt the same way than her boyfriend would be history and you two would be a couple. Since she hasn't dumped her boyfriend to be with you she's telling you loud and clear that she's not interested in you that way.

You need to let it go.