[National123]

Hi. I want to talk about my boyfriend. We've been dating since the past 3 years and I got into a relationship when I turned 16. My boyfriend (S) used to care about me so much and we used to meet almost everyday and even go grocery shopping together and we used to exchange expensive gifts as well. We've had our ups and downs like any other relationship but we've always tried to put them behind us.
After 2 years of my relationship I found out that S wasn't completely honest about his past relationship. I forgave him for that because I thought whatsoever its his past and he's with me now. Coming to the point since the last two weeks S is totally careless about me and whenever I ask him tp pick me he's always late and he doesn't have time for me. He's always playing FIFA with his friends and then having sleepovers too. He doesn't bother about replying to my text or even calling me once. When it comes to his friends, he's ready to go wherever he wants. Almost 3 years Ive been in this relationship and I haven't meet his friends except one. I feel he's ashmed of me and currently he was suppose to appear for his A level exams but he didn't give the exams because he was too lazy to study. He is a drummer and loves to play drums and perform at events too but I don't get an invitation there except one or twice.
Now the year is coming to an end and he's still not studying at all and whenever I ask him to study I become the bad person. He's also started doing weed like crazy and he's smoking all the time. The sad part is he has asthama as well and whenever I stop him from doing it he gets angry at me.
I've even tried the makeout but it didn't help instead we even fought there as well, he doesn't have time for me and he doesn't study and regularly smokes knowing how bad it is for his health. Im helpless. I broke up with him last night and he said no I can't live without you. That's it. He never called back or even stop me once. Just now I found out he's at a friend's place and he's going to smoke a joint and then go to FIFA. I'm helpless miserable and I can't stop myself myself from talking to him.

[Cat1864]

It may not seem like it right now, but I think you made the right choice. You appear to have put a lot of effort into helping him. Time to use that energy on yourself.

First thing to do is get rid of all your contact information for him. If you have him as a friend on Facebook or any other social site, delete him. Pretend he doesn't exist.

Keep yourself busy. Go out with friends. Some people find starting a new hobby or getting involved in volunteering or community based classes can help.

Changing your routine can help you break out of old habits. Something as small as listening to different music can help.

If you do back-slide, don't beat yourself up about it. Acknowledge that it happened and let it go. Dwelling on 'mistakes' puts more emphasis on them than they deserve.

Take care of yourself and good luck.

[Dican212]

As said before, you should try and change your routine since you've been with him for 3years plus, it will be hard to continue on normally since you will always be thinking about him, missing him and eventually go back to him. Change your routine and get more active! Do the things you couldn't do in a relationship. I mean if you break up... your single! And that's where you can enjoy many things couples cant.