[9792615469]

Even I'm going through d same thing. I'm in a realtionshp with a guy for 8yrs. Our caste is different I'm brahmin and he s rajput. He s well settled commercial pilot. I'm pursung my post graduation.my parents are treating me as if I have done some crime. My mother s blackmailing me saying all emotional stuffs sanskar and all. Bt by chosing a guy doesn't mean I'm not having sanskar. They give threats to me that.. they will stop my studies.they will not leave me and my guy if I do something agnst them. They don't want to listen a word about him. My brother is also totally agnst saying that guy is not suitable for me as we both are frm different profession.. not even ready to meet him once. Bcoz he s frm other caste. But I know he s best for me. His family s ready to accept me. But my family is asking me to forget that guy for the sake of family reputation and society. They have start luking for other guys in my caste but I'm not ready for this. I don't know how to convince them. Need your suggestions.

[Cat1864]

9792615469, I moved your post to its own thread so that we can give you advice that is appropriate for you.

Is there anyone your parents respect who might talk to them on your behalf?

How long have they known about your wish to marry this man? If it is fairly recent to them, would giving them time to calm down help?

Because we get questions about problems in inter-caste and love marriages, I feel a need to ask if you and your boyfriend have discussed the future. It is easy to get caught up in loving someone and not think about reality. How will you merge your different traditions? If/when you have children, how will they be raised? What are your expectations for living together? Having the answers to these questions and any others which come up in your discussion might help your parents look at your relationship in a more objective way.

One other thought that might be influencing their reaction, is your falling in love changing any plans they might have had for an arranged marriage?